Featured image from our interview with Ariel Kaye by Teal Thomsen.

7 Self-Care Tips for Parents During the Holiday Season

While self-care practices are important all throughout the year, it’s the piling on of parties, plans, and presents to be bought and wrapped that can wear us down during the holidays. What’s more, as parents of little ones, it’s up to us to make the season magical. That means a lot of effort goes into decking the halls and playing Santa. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, I get it. And that’s where these self-care tips for parents come in handy.

Ahead, I’m sharing not only my ideas to carve out some peace and quiet, but also why these practices are essential—plus tips for incorporating them into your life. Let’s make it happen.

Prioritize Your Needs

One of the best self-care tips for parents I can give you is to prioritize your needs over anyone else’s. And no, it’s not selfish! Prioritizing your needs ensures you have the energy and emotional well-being to care for your family effectively.

If there is anything on your list that doesn’t bring you joy, consider removing it.

Make a list of your needs and schedule time for self-care activities. Communicate your needs with your partner, friends, and family. And be sure to ask for support when you need it. If there is anything on your list that doesn’t bring you joy, consider removing it. I mean it: allow yourself to do less!

Set Realistic Expectations

Unrealistic expectations can lead to stress and disappointment. Realistic expectations can help you maintain a sense of balance. Reflect on past holiday seasons and set achievable goals. Be open to reevaluating things that may have felt stressful in years past. Practice flexibility and be open to adjustments as needed. Is attending a seven-course meal with toddlers doable? Do you want to mail and address one hundred holiday cards? Check in with yourself and ask how realistic this is. And be honest: are you taking on too much?

Practice Mindfulness

It’s all too easy to get swept up in the busyness of the holidays, putting ourselves on auto-pilot as we power through everything we need to do. This year, I challenge you to practice mindfulness before diving into it all. Mindfulness techniques can reduce stress, improve focus, and help you stay present in the moment.

Set aside a few minutes each day for mindfulness exercises. Create a vision board or visualize how you want to feel during the holidays: peaceful, present, and loved by family and friends. When you can give yourself the time to focus on what truly matters, it’s easier to let go of anything that isn’t serving you.

Less Screen Time, More Real Connections

Reducing screen time promotes face-to-face interactions and healthier family bonding. Set screen time limits for both yourself and your children. Use the extra time for quality family activities or relaxation. Social media often presents a polished highlight reel for most people. During the holidays, this effect can be even more pronounced, with everyone posting pictures of perfect trees, family photos, or matching pajama sets.

For some of us, the pressure to do it all can feel overwhelming and disheartening. If social media is making you feel inadequate, consider taking a break. (We dive into the importance and step-by-step details of taking a holiday social media detox.) Remember, comparison is the thief of joy. Instead, reach out to friends and family who understand your challenges and values. They can provide emotional support and connection through calls, texts, or video chats.

Stay Active

Regular exercise is a potent stress reliever and mood enhancer, yet it often gets pushed aside, especially when we have guests in town or when our kids are home from school.  Instead, continue your fitness routine or explore creative ways to stay active, like family walks, dance parties, or holiday-themed workouts.

Did you know that exercising may reduce your bad mental health days by 40%?  In my family, we are big fans of healthy competition, from pickleball matches to relay races involving the entire family, which can help reduce everyone’s stress levels. There’s also nothing wrong with carving out some alone time to stick to your exercise routine. Modeling self-care for your children will only help reinforce the importance of it for themselves. Get started with our favorite workouts.

Practice Good Sleep Habits

I’ll be the first to admit that I often stay up late during the holidays to get things done while my kids are sleeping. While checking off items on my to-do list in silence can be enjoyable, it can lead to rough mornings and long days. Add holiday parties that keep you out late and occasional holiday alcohol consumption, and you might find yourself navigating the holidays with a sleep deficit.

Lack of sleep is no joke. Anxiety and sleep deprivation have been proven to go hand-in-hand. Self-care starts with good sleep habits. Make sure you’re getting a full eight hours of rest. Consider limiting your alcohol intake to ensure sound sleep, and don’t forget the power of a 20-minute power nap. If you struggle to fall asleep, try implementing some healthy sleep habits.

Make Space for Emotions

While some of us feel like it’s the happiest time of the year, others may feel sad or depressed during the holidays. Regardless of which emotions the holidays evoke, it’s important to make time to reflect on and embrace them as they come up. This can involve a gratitude practice or picking up the phone to share your feelings with someone. If you find yourself feeling lonely during the holidays, make a plan to get yourself out of the house and into the community. There are numerous opportunities to get involved during this time of year.

The Takeaway

By understanding the importance of these self-care practices and integrating them into your daily routine, you can navigate the holiday season more smoothly and savor the precious moments with your family. I hope you can incorporate these self-care tips for parents into your life and make the most of your time with family! Happy holiday season, everyone!

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Featured image by Zachary Gray.

7 Ways to Cultivate Mindful Mornings With Kids

As we approach the holidays, when time seems to fly by even faster and stress seeps in, it’s the perfect moment to share ideas for spending mindful mornings with your kids. Ahead, discover mindfulness activities that can help you and your children begin your day in a more peaceful and meaningful way. Trust me, prioritizing a peaceful start will make everyone’s day better.

Connect With Your Kids in the Morning

The last thing anyone wants first thing in the morning is to start the day with orders or instructions. Thanks to gentle parenting classes, I’ve learned the importance of connecting with my kids before anything else. For us, this means a gentle wake-up hug and a moment in bed asking them about their dreams or how they feel as they wake up.

If your kids wake up before you, consider inviting them to sit on the edge of your bed and share their morning thoughts. It’s a brief 3-5 minute check-in that sets a positive tone for the day and makes it easier to collaborate on the next steps to get out the door.

Form a Morning Practice With Your Kids

Pre-children, I enjoyed a cup of coffee and some journaling to kickstart my day. While those luxuries are less frequent now, I still prioritize my morning practice, and I want to instill a similar routine in my kids. Given their age, we’ve started with a simple breathing technique—inhaling through the nose for four seconds and exhaling through the mouth for four seconds, repeating four times. It not only brings laughter but also infuses peace into our mornings.

Connect With Your Kids in Nature

Living in California allows us to enjoy the outdoors almost year-round. Even if you reside in a colder climate, spending a few minutes outside together can help ground you. This might involve having breakfast in the backyard, walking to school, or simply opening the front door, sitting on the porch barefoot, and saying, “Good morning, world, it’s me [your name].” (My husband came up with that one.)

Start the Day With Affirmations

You’ve probably seen those heartwarming Instagram moments where parents speak affirmations to their children. I’m a huge fan of this practice, especially during routine tasks like brushing hair, applying sunscreen, or washing hands. It not only distracts them from tasks they might not want to do but also pumps them up for the day ahead.

Set a Positive Tone in the Morning

We all have those days when we wake up feeling slightly off, and the same can happen to our kids. When I sense a gloomy morning, I know it’s time to change the energy in the room. My go-to solution is putting on some happy jazz music on Spotify. It’s incredible how a few cheerful tunes can transform the atmosphere and set a more positive tone for the day ahead.

Move Your Body Together

Sometimes, we all need a little backup, and I’m not afraid to use the TV for that. While you can certainly do physical activities without a screen, sometimes I prefer not to be the teacher. So, we turn on a yoga session and do five poses. Currently, our favorite is Paw Patrol yoga, but there are plenty of other calming options available if you need them. Using a mirror to practice with can also be really helpful.

Explore Your Senses as a Family

This activity takes a bit more effort, but it’s a great way to spark conversations and have a mindful morning with your kids. You engage all five senses and encourage your kids to join in. For example, while eating cereal at the table, you might say, “The milk feels cold in my mouth. How does it feel in yours?” Or, “This sunscreen is slimy, isn’t it?” Asking questions like, “What color do you want to eat this morning?” or “How do your pants make you feel?” prompts your child to connect consciously with their senses, helping them become more present in their bodies as they start their day.

Final Thoughts

Contrary to popular belief, mornings with kids don’t have to be chaotic and rushed. In fact, they can become your favorite part of the day! By incorporating these mindful morning activities, you can create a peaceful and positive start to your day, setting the tone for a happier and more harmonious family life.

Embrace the opportunity to connect, practice mindfulness, enjoy nature, boost confidence with affirmations, set a cheerful mood, move your body, and engage your senses. It really only takes about 5-10 minutes to create mindful mornings with kids. And I promise, you’ll be so happy you did so.

Looking for more ways to weave mindfulness into your morning routine? Let Camille’s AM rituals inspire your own.

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Questions arise—are we simply overstimulated or over-touched, or is something deeper triggering these reactions? One time when I was at a children’s birthday party with my kids, they were so tired and not on their best behavior, and I felt my anxiety start to kick in. I grabbed the kids, made excuses about needing to pick up my husband, and ran out of there. Looking back, I was the only one who seemed to be bothered by my kids.

Nowadays, instead of succumbing to frustration, I’ve learned to approach these moments with curiosity, determined to understand the root of our parenting triggers. Ahead, we explore parenting triggers and how they manifest, discovering mindful parenting tips to navigate these challenges with compassion and hope.

Featured image from our interview with Alex Taylor by Teal Thomsen.

What are parenting triggers?

Parenting triggers are emotional reactions that arise when we encounter situations with our children that evoke unresolved emotions from our past experiences. These triggers can stem from our own childhoods, past traumas, or even cultural and societal influences. When triggered, we may respond to our children’s behavior with intense emotions or uncontrollable reactions that don’t seem proportionate to the situation.

What do parenting triggers look and feel like?

According to Dan Siegel, a psychiatrist and author of the book The Whole Brain: 12 Revolutionary Strategies To Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind, parenting triggers can manifest in various ways, both physically and emotionally. Physically, you might notice tension in your body, increased heart rate, or shallow breathing. Emotionally, triggers may evoke feelings of anger, frustration, anxiety, or sadness. You might experience a sense of overwhelm, feeling out of control or helpless.

The Most Common Parenting Triggers

Parenting triggers can vary from person to person, but there are several common ones that many parents experience. These triggers may include:

• dealing with messes and disorganization
• coping with noise and chaos
• managing disobedience or defiance from their children
• feeling upset by a perceived lack of respect or appreciation
• struggling with overwhelming exhaustion

Understanding these triggers can help parents develop effective coping strategies and maintain a healthier and more harmonious parent-child relationship. If you’re looking for a great resource on common parenting triggers, I recommend checking out the book The Awakened Family: A Revolution in Parenting by Dr. Shefali Tsabary. 

Mindful Parenting Tips When You’re Triggered

So, what do you do when you start to feel triggered? While there is no one right way to fix a triggering situation, you can find specific ones that work for you. I recommend visiting mindful.org for insightful articles and resources on mindfulness and parenting, helping parents cultivate self-awareness and mindfulness in their interactions with their children.

Here are some great exercises that I find help me when I’m feeling triggered. 

• Pause and breathe. When you feel triggered, take a moment to pause and take deep breaths. This can help you regain composure and prevent impulsive reactions.
• Identify the trigger. Reflect on the underlying emotions and past experiences that may be contributing to the trigger. Understanding the root cause can help you respond more compassionately.
• Practice self-compassion. Be kind to yourself and acknowledge that parenting is challenging. Avoid self-judgment and allow yourself to learn and grow from these experiences.
• Use “I” statements. Communicate with your children using “I” statements to express your feelings without blaming them. For example, say, “I feel overwhelmed when there’s a lot of noise.”
• Seek support. Connect with other parents or professionals who can empathize with your experiences and offer guidance and encouragement.

The Takeaway

As parents, we’ve all encountered triggers that lead to intense reactions, leaving us feeling overwhelmed and regretful. By exploring the concept of parenting triggers, understanding their manifestations, and identifying common triggers, we can gain valuable insights into our emotional responses.

Armed with mindfulness and self-compassion, we can more effectively navigate these challenging moments. Embrace the curiosity to delve into the depths of our emotions, paving the way for greater connection, growth, and understanding in our roles as parents.

Remember: the journey of mindful parenting is one of continuous learning and transformation. With each step, we find the path to a more harmonious and loving family dynamic. And if you do blow up, don’t beat yourself up! Apologizing to your kids is a great way to teach them that everyone has bad days. Still, when we take accountability and apologize sincerely, we can mend relationships, and that’s a life skill everyone needs.

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It can feel like psychological warfare from all angles. Is she not calling me as much because she’s drowning in burp cloths and Bluey reruns, or does my cluelessness about nap schedules and pre-school waitlists make me an undesirable hangout? If it’s the former, am I being a bad friend for not reaching out more? If it’s the latter, maybe I’m reaching out too much.

Featured image by Michelle Nash.

Friendship After Kids: An Expert Shares How It’s Done

That being said, maybe those differences can be a good thing. A colleague who’s a mother told me she has a standing date she’ll never miss with a group of child-free friends—it’s often the highlight of her month. And the joy I get from being the “cool aunt figure” to my new tiny friends is genuinely priceless. 

No matter how cherished the friendship, babies and kids tend to make it so that you’ll see your mom friends a little less—if only temporarily. It’s undeniably hard, but it doesn’t have to be a friendship ender.

For a little guidance on how to navigate our evolving friendships, I spoke with Dr. Melanie Ross Mills, relationship expert and author of The Friendship Bond.

Dr. Melanie Ross Mills

Dr. Melanie Ross Mills (AKA Dr. Mel) is a nationally recognized temperament therapist, relationship expert, author, and life strategist.

I imagine it can be easy to make assumptions on both sides. Someone child-free might feel they’ve been left behind. A new mom might feel their child-free friends no longer think they’re fun. How can someone deal with or fight that urge to make that assumption? 

It is only human to make these assumptions when we are feeling left out or left behind. When we have entered a new life phase as a new mom, we will experience having to adjust. It is possible that your child-free friends aren’t quite ready for you to go in at 9:00 pm to breastfeed, therefore they don’t view you as the “fun friend’ anymore. It is also possible that the child-free mom feels left out because she is not in the playgroup or able to bond over which car seats are safest. 

Acknowledge:

Recognize that there will be some changes in schedules, priorities, mindsets, and approaches to life between the child-free and the new mom friendship. This will help you both step into this new phase of life as you seek to relate to one another in new ways and make an effort to maintain the old. 

Prioritize: 

Prioritize one another. Continue to incorporate some of your old activities (fun dinners together), but also understand that there will be adjusting. Make time to be together with and without the baby—respecting one another’s desires as you make an effort to share life with one another. 

Communicate:

Communication helps curb assumptions. Share in healthy ways what you’re experiencing and how you’re feeling. Let your child-free friend know if you’re sensing she is frustrated with your inability to dance until dawn. Share with your new mom friend that you miss your alone time with her and schedule a date. 

What are some ways to foster relationships with new mom friends? How can someone without kids adapt to suit their needs? 

A child-free relationship can adapt to suit the new mom’s needs by helping out, releasing expectations, inquiring about how she can show up in her life, extending support, and communicating her own needs as well. 

On the other hand, how can a new mother ensure her friends without kids that she wants to maintain a strong friendship? 

A new mom can choose to continue to make an effort with her child-free friends, reminding them that she’s still the same person she was previously and her love for them has not changed. Schedule your own “play dates” with your friends that have not experienced motherhood—center them around what they want to do. Be sensitive and try to empathize with where they’re coming from (especially the fear of the unknown). 

What are some things to keep in mind when you’re the odd one out in a group (the one without kids, or the only one with)? What intentional actions can you take to maintain those bonds? 

I’d start with releasing the mindset that you’re the odd man out in the group. Whether you have children or you don’t, you’re friends with one another for a reason. You’ve chosen to share life together. Each of you has something to offer the whole. That is why your presence is valuable, even if you do feel like the odd man out.

Whether you have children or you don’t, you’re friends with one another for a reason. You’ve chosen to share life together.

Children do not make us “less than,” or “more than.” It’s good to remind yourself that you’re still the awesome person you were created to be, with or without children. To maintain bonds, we must make an effort. Connecting doesn’t happen in isolation. Therefore, don’t get discouraged if you have an awkward experience as these changes are taking place. Don’t give up on your child-free and new mom friends. If you want them in your life, make an effort, make plans, and make memories.

Friendships do change as we get older—when do you feel it’s time to accept that a friendship hasn’t made the transition? 

Friendships do change as we change. Some will be in your life for a lifetime while others will be seasonal. We never want to write anyone off, but we also want to be realistic if a friendship hasn’t made the transition. Most of the time, you’ll notice a disconnect between you two. This doesn’t mean your friend will never be in your life again, it just means you’re moving away for now.

It is time to accept that the friendship hasn’t made the transition when there’s no longer a reciprocation in play. Once a friend has reached out multiple times without the other responding, that’s usually a good indicator that it’s okay to open your heart and time toward other friendships. Or, you might be the one that’s not feeling prompted to reciprocate in ways that you have previously. That’s okay too. Life’s about growth and relationships teach us, expand us, challenge us, heal us, hurt us, and grow us. We want to be in reciprocated friendships—child-free and/or new mom candidates welcome.

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Now that I’m a mom myself three times over (a reality I still can’t wrap my mind around), I’m giving a pregnant pause to the concept of the holiday. Mother’s Day has me thinking of all the packed lunches, carpool pick-ups, tears dried, cheek smudges wiped away, hair tresses braided, and boo-boos bandaged. The goodnight kisses, the pages read (and re-read) and, of course, the many lullabies sung. 

Featured image from our interview with Alex Taylor by Teal Thomsen.

16 Top-Rated Mother’s Day Gifts Every Mama Will Love

I’ve also been reflecting on all the sibling fights and feuds I’ve broken up, the carpet stains I’ve scrubbed (and scrubbed, and scrubbed… ), the insistence on finishing veggies before dessert, and the negotiations over why pajamas aren’t appropriate school attire. 

And it’s made me to decide to lean all the way in this year. 

For all the moments big and small, we moms deserve a treat. Too taxed to make a list of things you’d love to open on May 14th? We’ve got you covered. Our editors shared the Mother’s Day gifts they can’t wait to share (and hope they receive). Read on for the ultimate, mom-approved gift guide—and feel free to print out this guide and casually leave it on the kitchen counter. Okay, a note might be necessary, too.

For the Mom Who Loves a Farmer’s Market Haul: Casa Zuma “Salad Ritual” Gift Bundle

I designed this gift bundle to help make our time in the kitchen a joy-sparking, soul-replenishing moment in our day. Isn’t that a gift that just about every mama would love? The Salad Ritual includes everything she needs to slow down and bring more awareness to preparing a daily salad with fresh, seasonal ingredients. And it’s perfect for shipping if your mom lives far away—the salad bowl and spoons arrive ready to gift in a beautiful box, with a limited edition recipe booklet. — Camille, Editor-in-Chief

Casa Zuma “Salad Ritual” Gift Bundle

“Salad Ritual” Gift Bundle, $144

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For the Skincare-Obsessed Mom: Osea Undaria Algae Body Oil

I wasn’t a body oil person until a family member gifted me this Osea product over the holidays. Now it’s a staple in my routine and my skin just loves it. It has a light, fresh scent and delicious velvety texture. I thought I was moisturized before, but this is the real deal! — Michelle, Executive Producer

Osea Undaria Algae Body Oil

Undaria Algae Body Oil, $84

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For the Sentimental Mom: Mod + Jo Cherub Hoops

Every mama loves Mod+Jo. Their pieces are classy, timeless, and durable for everyday wear-and-tear (hello, motherhood). These hoops are my latest obsession–a reminder that our littles aren’t little for long. — Edie, Wellness Contributor

Mod + Jo Cherub Hoops

Cherub Hoops, $56

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For the Mom With Effortless Style: Doen Aphra Top

File this under “things I’m low-key hinting for my kids to buy me.” I have a little collection of Doen tops going in my collection, and I love how they add a little romance to even the simplest of outfits. This is the top I’m *hoping* to wear on repeat this summer. — Camille, Editor-in-Chief

Doen Aphra Top

Aphra Top, $188

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For the Coffee-Obsessed Mom: Farmhouse Pottery Gooseneck Kettle

The Stagg Electric Kettle may be getting all the love, but this matte black beauty deserves its spot in the sun. Whether she opts for coffee (or tea!), any mom will love the main character energy this kettle brings to the kitchen. — Isabelle, Managing Editor

Farmhouse Pottery Gooseneck Kettle

Gooseneck Kettle, $75

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For the Mom Who Never Forgets SPF: Janessa Leoné Milton

With summer around the corner, I’m living in hats. I’m a big Janessa Leoné hat fan and I’m really excited about this new release with the leather strap. (If you’re not into statement hats, this packable hat is perfect for travel and the mom on the go.) — Brandy, Motherhood Contributor

Janessa Leoné Milton

Milton, $370

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For the Hostess-with-the-Mostess Mom: Casa Zuma Linen Table Throw

For me, the perfect Mother’s Day gift is a slightly luxurious item that she may not buy for herself—something that gives that little jolt of delight every time she uses it. This casually cool linen table throw adds textural warmth to the table and comes in a drool-worthy array of muted shades. Ethically made in Lithuania, this square throw is the right size for any table she wants to throw it over—since it’s made to reveal the edges of what’s underneath, you can use it on square, round, and rectangular shaped-tables. — Camille, Editor-in-Chief

Casa Zuma Linen Table Throw

Linen Table Throw, $80

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For the Mom Who Loves to Lounge: Ulla Johnson Aurelie Robe

Your mama’s morning getup just got a glow-up. I’m obsessed with this patterned silk number from my fave Ulla Johnson because, well what’s not to love? Psst… Someone please send this to my husband! — Anne, Contributing Editor

Ulla Johnson Aurelie Robe

Aurelie Robe, $390

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For the Mom Who Needs to Marie Kondo: Legacybox

If your mom is holding onto piles of VHS tapes, cue the tears when you present her with digitized versions of Christmas mornings, volleyball games, and piano recitals long ago. — Brittany, Content Marketing Director

Legacybox

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For the Baking-Obsessed Mom: Our Place Ovenware Set

My mom is *deeply* in her everything-must-go, self-declared-minimalist era. She’s made it clear: she only wants to hold onto what she loves and/or what improves her everyday routines. A five-piece, non-toxic stoneware baking set for under $200? It checks all the boxes. And those colors… I’m opting for lavender. — Isabelle, Managing Editor

Our Place Ovenware Set

Ovenware Set, $195

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For the Mom Whose Style Is Unmatched: Freda Salvador Eda D’Orsay Sneaker

Every spring and summer, I’m on the hunt for the perfect white leather sneaker. Like all of Fred Salvador’s shoes, the padding supplies the ultimate comfort. Bonus points: small-batch and female-founded.— Brandy, Motherhood Contributor

Freda Salvador Eda D’Orsay Sneaker

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For the Mom Who Loves Luxe Skincare: Sahara Rose Sumptuous Regenerating Cream

Because skincare is one of the most instantly transportive, indulgent, uplifting gifts to give (and receive). And if it’s a clean product from an independent female-founded company, as this gorgeous face cream is, it’s doubly inspiring and beautiful. — Stacey, Contributing Editor

Sahara Rose Sumptuous Regenerating Cream

Sumptuous Regenerating Cream, $76

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For the Mom With Timeless Style: Birkenstock Arizona Soft Footbed Sandal

These sandals sit smack right in the middle of the Venn diagram of gifts my mom, my mother-in-law, and I all want equally. A mom needs a pair of comfy slides that also make you look put together in an instant—these are them. — Brittany, Content Marketing Director

Birkenstock Arizona Soft Footbed Sandal

Arizona Soft Footbed Sandal, $140

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For the Foodie Mom: The Best Brunch in Town

The ultimate gift would be my husband getting the kids ready in aesthetically pleasing outfits, presenting me with flowers, and taking me to brunch at a beautiful outdoor patio. Followed by an afternoon to myself. — Brandy, Motherhood Contributor

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For the Mom Who Knows the Beauty of Basics: Z Supply Kaili Button-Up Gauze Top

Hot mom uniform, school drop-off uniform, lounging on a Sunday uniform, etc.—this top will delight your favorite mama. She’ll never want to take it off. (It me). — Edie, Wellness Contributor

Z Supply Kaili Button-Up Gauze Top

Kaili Button-Up Gauze Top, $79

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For the Statement-Making Mom: Chan Luu White Pearl and Gold Diamond Cuff

My mom’s a minimalist—but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t like to make a statement. She’s been collecting Chan Luu’s timeless wrap bracelets for years. But this Mother’s Day, I’m going to change it up with this sleek cuff featuring a champagne diamond and white freshwater pearl. — Isabelle, Managing Editor

Chan Luu White Pearl and Gold Diamond Cuff

White Pearl and Gold Diamond Cuff, $155

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Magazine Subscriptions

Moms love a magazine. It’s a bit of happy mail from days of old and a gift that lasts all year. Cater to her interests with a subscription to Bon Appétit for foodies, Magnolia Journal for Jo lovers, or a number of classics like Real Simple, BHG, (and, yes, People). — Brittany, Content Marketing Director

Magazine Subscriptions

Magazine Subscriptions, prices vary

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The Best Easter Gifts for Kids

Of course, you don’t have to spend loads of money and shower your kids with 20 gifts every time a holiday rolls around. Oftentimes, a carefully chosen gift or DIY activity together is just as sweet.

So if you’re on the hunt for something special (that will bring joy beyond one day) then keep reading for the perfect Easter gifts for kids that will delight your littles and make celebrating spring easy. And to simplify your shopping, we’ve divided our picks into age-appropriate gifts. Happy shopping, Easter bunny!

Every product is curated with care by our editors. If you buy something through our links, we may earn a small commission at no cost to you.

Ages 0-2

Slumberkins Blueberry Sloth Snuggler

Designed to support emotional growth, this stuffed animal and book set goes way beyond cute. As someone who’s gifted many a Slumberkin to nieces and nephews, believe me when I say: these are beyond soft. And the interactive story, “Let’s Go! With Sloth” encourages connection and play. While the snuggler is intended for ages 0-2, if you have older littles, selecting the “kin” option is your best choice.

What’s great:

• The softest stuffed animal/lovey we’ve ever snuggled (seriously)
• Machine washable
• Book and affirmation card were written by therapists and educators

Slumberkins Blueberry Sloth Snuggler

Blueberry Sloth Snuggler, $49

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Colored Organics Organic Lovey Bunny

Meet your little one’s new best friend. This lovey is made of 100% organic cotton—meaning soft snuggles for months to come. We also love that it’s intentionally designed with non-toxic, sustainable materials, so even infants with sensitive skin can get cozy.

Colored Organics Organic Lovey Bunny

Organic Lovey Bunny, $34

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MiniOlie Baby Carrot Plush Hooded Romper

They’ll love cuddling up in this cute and perfect-for-spring romper. Be sure to take lots of pictures.

What’s great:

• Comes in five different sizes

What’s not:

• Size 3-6M is currently out of stock; as is the Brick Red colorway
• Made of 100% polyester—we would have preferred a more sustainable, softer fabric

MiniOlie Baby Carrot Plush Hooded Romper

Baby Carrot Plush Hooded Romper, $46.95

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Pottery Barn Kids Organic Jack Muslin Drool Bib Set

Functional and fun, this bib set is soft and durable (key)—meaning each bib can absorb even the drippiest messes.

What’s great:

• Made of 100% organic cotton muslin
• Machine washable
• Fair-trade and fast-absorbing

Pottery Barn Kids Organic Jack Muslin Drool Bib Set

Organic Jack Muslin Drool Bib Set, $35

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Jellystone Rainbow Stacking Toy

The best toys are well-loved and easy to clean up. This minimalist stacking rainbow checks all the boxes.

What’s great:

• Dishwasher and freezer safe
• Encourages hand-eye coordination
• Can be used for teething

Jellystone Rainbow Stacking Toy

Rainbow Stacking Toy, $25

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Mudpuppy Garden Bunnies 25 Piece Floor Puzzle

With only 25 pieces, this floor puzzle will entertain and challenge children ages two and up. Bonus: you’ll love their cute, vibrant, and perfect-for-Easter masterpiece.

What’s great:

• Oversized pieces are perfect for small hands
• Perfect for individual or group play

Mudpuppy Garden Bunnies 25 Piece Floor Puzzle

Garden Bunnies 25 Piece Floor Puzzle, $16.99

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Ages 3-5

Mermaid Dreams by Kate Pugsley

One of the many wonderful things about children’s books is that they’re endlessly entertaining for little ones—and totally compelling for adults. Featuring beautiful illustrations by Kate Pugsley, Mermaid Dreams takes young readers on an imaginative, underwater adventure.

What’s great:

• Comes in board book or hardcover format
• A beautiful book to display on your coffee table

Mermaid Dreams by Kate Pugsley

Mermaid Dreams, $8.99

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Lovevery The Block Set

Helmed by a team of child development experts, Lovevery designs toys that engage children in intentional play. What exactly does that look like? Thoughtfully made “play kits” that teach children spatial, language, and problem-solving skills. I won’t lie… I’d love to find this in my basket on Easter morning.

What’s great:

• Designed by child development experts
• Accompanying activity guide includes 20+ learning games

Lovevery The Block Set

The Block Set, $90

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L.L. Bean Toddlers’ Animal Paws Slippers

While these slippers are Easter-appropriate for obvious reasons, they’re guaranteed to be worn year-round. Comfy, cozy, and oh-so-cute, your little bunnies will be obsessed.

What’s great:

• No-slip tread keeps toddlers upright
• Machine washable for easy cleaning

L.L. Bean Toddlers’ Animal Paws Slippers

Toddlers’ Animal Paws Slippers, $29.95

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Peking Handicraft Oh Joy Pillow

For when the Easter candy isn’t enough, this cheeky pillow is sure to satisfy their sweet tooth. The fun print is the perfect way to brighten up any toddler’s room.

What’s great:

• Designed by Joy Cho, a Camille Styles fan-favorite
• Fine embroidery adds a thoughtful touch of character

What’s not:

• Pillow is spot clean only—not ideal for toddler messes and sticky hands

Peking Handicraft Oh Joy Pillow

Oh Joy Pillow, $39.81

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Babiators The Daisy Sunglasses

These sunglasses are one of the many children’s accessories we wish would come in adult sizes. (Seriously, we’d be rocking these all the time!) Not only will your kiddo be styling, but their eyes will be protected thanks to the UV400 lenses that offer 100% UVA and UVB protection.

What’s great:

• Sunglasses are 100% kid-proof, i.e., they feature flexible rubber frames and shatter-resistant lenses
• If you lose or break your sunglasses in the first year, you can receive a replacement pair for free

Babiators The Daisy Sunglasses

The Daisy Sunglasses, $36

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Poppy’s House by Karla Courtney

Sweet and sentimental, Poppy’s House tells the story of a little girl’s adventures with her “Poppy.” Together, they garden, explore, and share a love of a simple way of life. It’s a beautiful reflection of the bonds that tie us together—no matter our age.

What’s great:

• Beautifully illustrated pages engage both children and adults
• The book is based on the author’s own visits to her Poppy’s house in Arnold’s Cove, Newfoundland

Poppy’s House by Karla Courtney

Poppy’s House, $17.39

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Ages 6-8

Gamewright Rat-A-Tat-Cat

Just because a game is intended for children doesn’t mean adults won’t quickly become obsessed. My parents purchased this game for me and my sisters when we were 6, 7, and 9. Twenty years later, we still play whenever the whole fam gets together. It’s easy to learn—meaning that you’ll probably spend five minutes reviewing the instructions and hours longer playing round after round.

What’s great:

• Appropriate for two-player games or up to six players
• Helps young children learn basic mathematical concepts
• Designed for ages 6 and up

Gamewright Rat-A-Tat-Cat

Rat-A-Tat-Cat, $10.99

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A Kids Book About Boredom by Kyle Steed

As children become more and more connected to technology, the beauty of boredom is an increasingly important topic to discuss. Written by artist Kyle steed, A Kids Book About Boredom explores the many ways boredom can be one of the most inspiring and powerful tools in our creative toolbox.

What’s great:

• Colorful and vibrant illustrations capture children’s attention and effectively break down topics
• Positive and affirming language encourages children to reach their full potential

A Kids Book About Boredom by Kyle Steed

A Kids Book About Boredom, $19.95

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Meri Meri Spring Bunny Egg Decorating Tattoo Kit

Add this tattoo kit to the list of things currently in my cart. (I’m gifting sets to just about everyone I know.) While I’ve always loved the concept of egg decorating, in practice, it can be difficult to end up with a final product that matches the tutorial. With these egg-decorating tattoos, kids will have fun selecting from bunnies, carrots, flowers, birds, and bees to easily create beautifully-decorated eggs.

What’s great:

• Includes 27 tattoos with nine spring designs
• An easy activity for kids ages 3+

Meri Meri Spring Bunny Egg Decorating Tattoo Kit

Spring Bunny Egg Decorating Tattoo Kit, $12 (reg. $15)

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Ages 9-11

OMY Crazy Museum Giant Coloring Poster

I discovered OMY when I was living in Paris and though I was a student with an au pair’s salary, I happily invested my hard-earned dollars buying every last one of the company’s I-could-do-this-for-hours coloring activities. Kids can spread this imaginatively illustrated poster on the table or down on the floor for a full day’s worth of coloring perfect for a rainy spring day. (Psst… the brand’s ultra-washable markers are a perfect companion present.)

What’s great:

• 27″ x 39″ poster encourages hours of imaginative exploration and play
• Easy to frame and hang up to display once complete

Crazy Museum Giant Coloring Poster

Crazy Museum Giant Coloring Poster, $18.50

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KiwiCo Acrylic Paint Marker Set

As a kid, there was nothing better than opening up a new set of markers. (Okay, that still holds true today.) And while you’re welcome to purchase watercolor markers, paper markers, wood markers—the list goes on—the good news is that these water-based acrylic paint markers work on any surface. Just be sure to remind them that the living room furniture is off-limits.

What’s great:

• Acrylic paint markers work on any surface
• Visit www.kiwico.com/diy for project ideas and inspiration
• Color stays vibrant longer than other brands

KiwiCo Acrylic Paint Marker Set

Acrylic Paint Marker Set, $9.95 (reg. $16.95)

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The HappyMe Daily Gratitude Journal

IYKY—gratitude journaling is one of the best things we can do for our wellness. Kids, included! While the concept of writing about what we’re thankful for may seem like more of an adult topic, it’s an easy habit for children to build. The HappyMe Daily Gratitude Journal breaks it down into accessible steps, encouraging children with age-appropriate prompts, space to draw, and room to explore their gratitudes deeper.

What’s great:

• Expertly designed to foster a growth mindset by increasing confidence, self-awareness and self-belief
• Accessible writing and drawing prompts encourage mindfulness and provide an alternative to screen time

The HappyMe Daily Gratitude Journal

Daily Gratitude Journal, $31.90

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Nailmatic Kid’s Wash-Off Nail Polish Set

Nail painting is a fun way to encourage your child to explore self-expression. And because the polish was formulated with kids in mind, it comes off easy after a quick rinse-off under warm, soapy water.

What’s great:

• Water-based polish means all the fun, minus the mess
• Formulated without artificial fragrances, parabens, phthalates, or sulfates

Nailmatic Kid’s Wash-Off Nail Polish Set

Wash-Off Nail Polish Set, $34

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The Woobles Egg-cellent Accessory Bundle

Fiber arts are a fun and fulfilling hobby for older kids. This beginner-friendly bundle includes everything they need to get started: from yarn to needles to easy-to-follow video instructions.

What’s great:

• Accompanying step-by-step video tutorials support easy learning
• Beginner kits come pre-started to help new crocheters along
• Comes with five individual project kits—including an easter egg shell, a carrot and basket, and a bunny headband

The Woobles Egg-cellent Accessory Bundle

Egg-cellent Accessory Bundle, $20 (reg. $27)

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Ages 12+

Tubby Todd Kids Gift Set

If you’re interested in helping your child begin their skincare journey, there’s no better place to start than with this gentle, easy-to-use set. Designed with the intention to help children feel confident in how they care for themselves, this set encourages tweens to begin building daily rituals that support them in their day-to-day lives. The five-piece gift set includes the brand’s Suds Stick, Best Face Wash, Kids Toothpaste, Deo Stick, and (S)Undercover SPF serum.

What’s great:

• Gentle ingredients work with sensitive skin
• Select from scented or fragrance-free sets
• Gluten-free, dairy-free, and certified animal cruelty-free

Tubby Todd Kids Gift Set

Kids Gift Set, $86

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Roomytown Rather Be Reading Fine Art Print

If you have a reader in the house (who also just happens to swoon over cats), they’ll love showing off this quirky print in their room.

What’s great:

• Select from print only or framed options
• Printed on museum-quality paper
• Comes in five different sizes to fit their bedroom or reading nook perfectly

Roomytown Rather Be Reading Fine Art Print

Rather Be Reading Fine Art Print, $25

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PB Teen Cozy Sherpa Robe

While things may be getting warmer outside, there’s still nothing better than slipping into a cozy and plush robe to ease your way out of bed. And as we all know, teens and pre-teens can use all the help they can get when it comes to waking up. This soft Sherpa robe is the perfect little luxe gift.

What’s great:

• Comes in six colors
• Made entirely from recycled materials
• Features two pockets

What’s not:

• Robe is sized X-Small/Small and Medium/Large. Due to imprecise sizing, we recommend sizing up to ensure a cozy fit.

PB Teen Cozy Sherpa Robe

Cozy Sherpa Robe, $59

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BAGGU Standard Baggu (Set of 3)

The OG reusable bag! There are endless reasons your tween could use one of BAGGU’s famous, bright, and cheery prints. An extra bag for sports equipment? Check. Something to load their overdue library books into? Check. A statement piece that’ll help them define their personal style? Check.

What’s great:

• Totes come in a reusable drawstring pouch for easy storage
• Tote sets come in four different colorways (including “Sunshine Fruit”—so cute!)
• Each tote can carry up to 50 pounds

BAGGU Standard Baggu (Set of 3)

Standard Baggu (Set of 3), $42

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W&P Sip Sustainably Bundle

Let your tween sip sustainably and in style with this water bottle and travel mug set. The duo’s matte silicone sleeves make for easy, soft handling. And the terrazzo print? Totally on trend.

What’s great:

• Microwave and dishwasher safe
• Comes in 8 colors and prints

Wu0026P Sip Sustainably Bundle

Sip Sustainably Bundle, $50 (reg. $60)

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Girlfriend Collective Please Recycle Quarter Crew Sock

It’s a truth universally acknowledged that there is no such thing as too many socks. And when you find comfy crew socks in a range of vibrant hues? Stock up, stat.

What’s great:

• Made from 90% recycled plastic bottles
• Socks are recyclable through the brand’s ReGirlfriend program

Girlfriend Collective Please Recycle Quarter Crew Sock

Please Recycle Quarter Crew Sock, $14

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Clare V. Baseball Hat

If you haven’t heard, baseball hats are the newest it accessory (just ask Camille!). This bright and cheeky hat will be their favorite thing to wear all spring and summer long.

What’s great:

• Metal closure creates the perfect fit
• Made in L.A. by a woman-owned brand

Clare V. Baseball Hat

Baseball Hat, $49

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Galison Liberty Floral Playing Card Set

Everyone could use a deck or two of playing cards. With these dual sets, your pre-teen can play all of their favorite games in style.

What we love:

• Two decks feature beautiful Liberty London floral prints
• Storage box is stunning enough to proudly display anywhere in their room or in the house

Galison Liberty Floral Playing Card Set

Liberty Floral Playing Card Set, $16.99

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7 Days of Mindfulness By Jessica Poundstone Puzzle Set

This set of seven, 70-piece puzzles is a great way to encourage your older child to practice mindfulness through a fun and gratifying activity. Designed by Portland-based visual artist Jessica Poundstone, puzzles are intended to be completed each day of the week, helping children feel a sense of accomplishment no matter where the day takes them. This puzzle set is inspiring proof that it’s never too early to begin practicing self-care.

What’s great:

• 70-piece mini puzzles can be done in a single sitting
• Beautifully designed puzzles can double as wall art once finished

7 Days of Mindfulness By Jessica Poundstone Puzzle Set

7 Days of Mindfulness Puzzle Set, $19.99

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The first iteration of the phone was simply the thing that my entire family shared that occasionally rang when a family member called. It hung on the wall and we used it to order pizza, call the weather channel, or find out which movies were playing. (Insert deep voiceover: “welcome to movie phone!”)

Once high school hit, the magical device was the thing attached to the cord that you used to twist around and around while talking for hours on end to your crush. Remember this fun game: “No you hang up first! No, YOU hang up first!” Sigh. Swoon. The nostalgia is real, and it’s an arguably more innocent relationship to The Phone than my kids will ever be able to have in their tech-dominant world.

When Should Kids Get Phones? An Expert Weighs In

Nowadays, our phones are basically an extension of ourselves. Never out of sight, barely out of our hands. You can be reached anytime, anyplace, anywhere. It almost makes you miss the sound of the busy signal. 

With the subject of phones now being discussed with growing frequency in our home, I’m trying to navigate the best way to appropriately keep my kids connected when there isn’t a healthy landline’s distance to be found. 

There are a million questions running through my mind on this topic at any given moment. What’s the best tracking app for my teenager’s iPhone? When should my fifth grader get one herself and what rules should I enforce? And how can I get a jumpstart on restrictions now with my first grader that I can adhere to as the iPhone brigade parades into our home?

Because it’s far more than just a handy little object to connect with a friend. Our phones allow a whole new world of constant communication, contact, content, and access. Press 1 if you’re freaking out. 

With zero clue where to start, I connected with Brooke Shannon of Wait Until 8th, an online platform that encourages parents to delay (wait till 8th!) getting a smartphone for their kids. Brooke helped me understand the different stages of adolescence when it comes to tech. Bookmark this one, caretakers, teachers, parents, and grandparents—it’s an interview worth revisiting. 

Brooke Shannon

Brooke Shannon is the Executive Director and founder of Wait Until 8th. She lives in Austin with her husband Michael and three daughters. Brooke has a Master’s in Integrated Marketing Communications from Northwestern University and B.A. in Political Science and Communications from the University of Miami.

Tips for Kids 

Treat smartphones like tools, not toys

When your kids are little, it is easy to give your little one your phone to watch YouTube or play a game to buy time while you wait at the restaurant or at the dentist. Resist this temptation. This teaches them the phone is fun and can eliminate boredom.

Always carry a book with you

With a book by your side, your default mode will be reading, not scrolling social media or cramming a few emails when you have a couple of minutes. Your kids will pick up on this habit modeled to them in the early years. Encourage your children to keep a book with them as well. Stash a few books in the car so your family always has a book to grab. My girls also love magazines. Check out the Week Junior for a kid friendly weekly news publication or Highlights for elementary kiddos. My middle schoolers also love cooking magazines and Real Simple. What a difference it will make to encourage your children to read instead of consuming mindless entertainment on a smartphone or tablet!

Make all meals device-free

Gathering around the family dinner table or at your crew’s favorite restaurant is an important time to reconnect and be together as a family. Devices distract from rich conversations. Research shows that the presence of a smartphone can lessen the quality of an in-person conversation. Protect all mealtimes from the intrusion of devices. Make it a family practice to unplug for breakfast, lunch, and dinner at home or dining out.

Choose shared screen time instead of individual screen time

With our homes overflowing with TVs, tablets, and phones, it’s tempting to let each kid choose their own entertainment. Yet, it is important for children to share experiences with their families. It’s good for them to compromise when picking out a movie, show, or video game. Designate a weekly family movie night for the family to enjoy screen time together. 

Delay! Delay! Delay!

Preschool kiddos and elementary school children do not need smartwatches or smartphones. This is a time for them to play outside, read, and spend quality time with family and friends. This also is an important time for children to learn interpersonal skills like listening, interpreting nonverbal communication, eye contact, and effective speaking. Smartphones are a huge distraction to the development of these skills.

This is a time for them to play outside, read, and spend quality time with family and friends.

Rally some other friends to join you in delaying the smartphone with the Wait Until 8^th pledge. There is strength in numbers and your kid won’t be the “only one” if you encourage other families to delay, too.

Tips for Tweens

If your tween wants to text, try a tablet first

Once you have a middle schooler, you quicky learn how much kids connect outside of school via texting. If you want a way for your child to connect with their peers during middle school, we prefer texting and FaceTime on a tablet that stays in your kitchen/family room only versus a smartphone. Please note we do not recommend starting this until middle school. Elementary kids need to learn key in-person communication first and need lots of time playing and exploring!

The benefit of the iPad over a phone is that it stays at the house under your supervision instead of constantly with your child like a phone is. The same instructions for stripping down a phone will apply to the iPad (remove access to the internet browser and App Store). Essentially, make this device a communication device for texting and FaceTiming. Teach your child how to text before you grant this privilege on the iPad or a basic phone. Monitor your child’s texts. They are not allowed privacy at this stage in the training game—they need coaching.

If you need to get in touch, consider a basic phone

We encourage parents to delay all phones through elementary school and most of middle school. They learn so much not tethered to a device. They learn how to interact with people face to face, how to be present, speak up, listen, problem-solve, and manage situations without a constant tether to mom, dad, and friends.

There are situations where it is convenient for our kids to have a phones to reach them. But for us, the conveniences are not worth it. For parents who want or need a communication device for their middle schooler, we encourage them to start with a basic phone like Gabb, Light phone, Wisephone, Bark, or Pinwheel instead of a smartphone. All of these phones are very basic and do not have access to the App Store, games, internet browser, and social media. A basic phone is a thousand times better than starting with a smartphone. We believe most middle schoolers thrive, grow, and learn better without a phone.

Make car time conversation time

We spend a good amount of time together as a family shuttling to and from school and activities. These short trips can be avenues for great conversations as a family or an opportunity for kids to catch up with friends on your carpool turn. Guard this conversation space fiercely by making your car a phone-free zone for all riders. Sometimes this entails gently reminding your kids and their friends that phones should be put away in your car. In our car, we have signs posted in the car that say “no phone zone.” Some kids laugh at them or do a slight eye roll, but for the most part they respect the family rule. Protect your family’s space from smartphone evasion!

If your tween is curious about a viral trend, look it up together

If every kid at school is talking about a funny dance on TikTok or a hilarious video on YouTube, take the time to check it out together. This gives your child the opportunity to be in the know of popular trends without having to have a social media account. Plus, by looking it up together you can talk about it as a family.

Say “not yet” to all social media in middle school

This is absolutely the WORST time for kids to be on a platform where they constantly are told they are not enough. I know your kids will beg and say, “every kid has BeReal or anyone who is anyone is on Instagram or kids ONLY communicate on Snapchat.” Parents, do not CAVE! Keep your middle schoolers off social media. They are not ready.

Tips for Teens

Start slowly with the smartphone

Never hand over a fully-loaded smartphone as a first phone for a child. Remove the access to the App Store and to the internet browser through parental controls on the phone. Your child does not need unfettered access to the internet. If research is required for schoolwork, encourage the child to use a family computer, tablet, or school device. In most scenarios though, children are on the internet on a smartphone for entertainment purposes. Take this boredom eliminator away. Also, do not allow games or social media at first. Keep it simple! Texting, calling, photo taking, and listening to books and music.

Nix notifications on your teen’s phone

Phones call for our attention. Every day, we are bombarded by a constant stream of dings, flashes, and red badges screaming for our attention and pulling us away from our family and friends. Turn down the digital noise by going to Settings on your child’s phone. Then click “notifications” and turn off the badges, banners, and notifications for everything except for calls and texting.

When it comes to social media, proceed with caution

I suggest delaying social media until at least 16. At some point after that and before high school graduation, you may want to instruct them how to use social media moderately and safely. Try one platform first before allowing multiple social media accounts. Set time restrictions on the social media apps. Limit to 10-15 minutes a day. Be sure to follow their accounts and check in with what they are doing and what accounts they are following.

Keep phones out of the bedrooms at night

Period. No excuses here. Every expert from pediatricians to internet safety gurus to child psychologists agree that phones do not belong in the bedroom at night. Our devices should go to bed long before we do. Downtime before sleep time is huge! A few tips:

• Create a curfew for the device to check in with you. Ideally, this will be at least one hour before the lights are out.
• Establish a curfew on the device through parental controls.
• Get an old-school alarm clock for each of your kids.
• Talk to your kids about the importance of sleep and the crucial role it plays in physical and mental health. Sleep makes a big difference on the academic front, too.

Don’t be afraid to change your mind

Are you cringing every time you think about your kid on Snapchat, Instagram, or TikTok? Do you wish you could put the social media genie back in the bottle? We hear from so many moms and dads who regret saying yes to social media for their kids. They worry about how much time they are spending on it and losing sleep over what their children have been exposed to on social media. There are concerns about how the constant feed of perfection is making their kids feel inadequate. I am here to tell you that you can pause it all.

Take a Social Media Break as a Family

You can tell your kids you want your family to take a break from social media. Maybe the pause is a reset for a week, a month, six months, or longer. You are in charge, so don’t be afraid to change your mind. During the social media break, see what you observe in your kids. Do they seem calmer, happier, or less stressed?

A few more child phone tips to help your entire family develop a healthier relationship with their technology:

• Consider watching The Social Dilemma together during this reset.
• Read articles about how addictive social media can be.
• Ask your children what they think a healthy relationship with social media should look like and help them understand your concerns.

Who knows, your family may decide after taking a break from social media that it should really be a breakup.

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Chill time at home is far less glitzy and exciting than festive outdoor activities and parties with friends and family, so it’s an easy one to forget about… until it’s not. Before I had kids, having a few days of downtime sounded like an absolute dream. Hanging out in my pajamas on the couch with a cup of tea watching my favorite show in silence? Sign me up! But, when you have kids, this dreamy scenario can quickly turn into a bit of a nightmare. 

How to Keep Kids Occupied During the Holiday Vacation

Have you ever experienced that multi-day stretch with bored kids at home? It can be a lot! But having activities planned for family time (aka, the kids) during the holidays can save you the mental stress of trying to improvise daily to keep your kids entertained. 

Over the years, I’ve learned my lesson. Instead of repeating the chaos every year, I’ve come up with some tried-and-true activities that my kids (and my husband!) love that won’t break the bank. Keep reading for my go-to things to do with your family during the holiday time off. 

11 Things to Do With Your Family During the Holidays

1. Get dressed up and have high tea 

I’ll admit, I don’t know who loves playing dress up more—me or the kids. Maybe it’s the former stylist in me that can’t resist a good costume moment, but one of my favorite at-home activities is to get dressed and have a tea party at home. The best part about this is you don’t need to go to Spirit Halloween two months in advance to get perfect costumes. Just use what’s around the house! You’ll be surprised what some toilet paper and cardboard can do with a bit of imagination. 

2. Give back with your family

Take the time to show your kids the true meaning of the season by getting involved with a community project. Whether it’s attending a small fundraiser or participating in community service, it’s a great way to help those in need. Not only is this an affordable and engaging outing, but it’s also a meaningful lesson to teach early on.

3. Turn random acts of kindness into a game 

The world could use more random acts of kindness, especially during the holiday season. Make it a game with your kids to see who can do the kindest things in one day and then tally up the points at the end. Of course, everyone wins when you’re being nice to others.

4. See a musical or music in the park 

There are almost always community events happening around the holidays. Check your local news listings to see if there is a community theatre, parades, or live bands playing at an all-ages venue.

5. Have a family bake day

Look up an easy, festive recipe and make baking the theme of the day. Similar to dress-up, it’s fun to put on aprons and DIY chef hats to make some festive treats. Consult this list of the best holiday cookies to celebrate the season.

6. Make room for new gifts

This is one of my favorites because I’ll admit, it’s a bit sneaky. Tell your kids that to make room for new gifts, they have to purge some things they no longer need. Suddenly, you’re having a family clean-up day and they won’t even know it.

7. Go on a nature walk 

Taking time to go outside in nature should never be underestimated. It’s free and so good for the soul. If it’s not really your kids’ vibe, try turning it into a scavenger hunt to keep things fun and engaging. 

8. Turn your living room into a spa

Massage night anyone? Transform your space into a family-friendly spa and take turns giving each other foot rubs. An engaging activity that makes kids smile and you get to carve out some self-care? Win-win for mommy.

9. Go to your local library for story time 

Just like musicals and theatre in the park, there’s often story time happening at your local library. This is a great way to get out of the house and take a break from screen time for some good old wholesome fun.

10. Hit up a museum 

Show your kids some culture by taking them to a museum. While this may be “boring” for some kids, I suggest turning it into an activity by telling them to pick their favorite piece of art and recreate it at home! 

11. Send letters to loved ones

‘Tis the season for love and family! Spend a day writing down your favorite memories or messages of love to friends and family and go together to drop them off in the mailbox. The most feel-good activity of all. 

What are some of your favorite at-home holiday activities? I’d love to add more to my list! Comment below and I’ll be sure to incorporate them into my time off this holiday season. 

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As we get older and household pressures begin to mount, we may find ourselves asking an age-old question: how much more can I take? When do I reach my breaking point? How do I protect myself from burnout and even resentment toward others? 

If you’ve ever felt this way, I can assure you; you are not alone. That internal bandwidth that comes with running a household is called the mental load. 

Featured image of Simone Boyce by Teal Thomsen.

What is the mental load?

The mental load refers to the cognitive effort involved in managing your work, relationships, family, and household. It’s the laundry list of details you manage throughout the day. It has to do with your responsibilities, formal or not, as well as the decisions you have to make.

Did I get a birthday gift for Sara? Did I schedule the Christmas card photos? Did I pick out the outfits? Did I make the dentist appointment? Did I pack everyone’s luggage? Do we have enough diapers? Does my husband know what time the kids need to be picked up? The list can go on and on. 

Research suggests that women carry a heavier mental load in the household. According to Healthline, a 2019 study of 35 heterosexual couples found that the women in the relationships tend to take on more of the cognitive labor, particularly when it came to anticipating the needs of others and monitoring progress.

Additionally, when 400 married women were asked about their mental load, 88 percent reported that they were the ones who primarily managed routines at home and 76 percent said they were mostly responsible for maintaining regular household standards and order.

Much like a physical burden, the weight of the mental load can be heavy and detrimental to one’s health. 

My Personal Mental Load 

Like so many of you, my mental load reached its limit when I became a mother. This isn’t to say I wasn’t ready to become a parent. I knew there would be sleepless nights and long days, teething phases, and seemingly endless messes to clean. What surprised me was the running list of tasks and the unseen domestic labor.

I didn’t feel appreciated and all the work I was doing seemed like it wasn’t valued. Because let’s face it: society doesn’t value it.

It’s simply expected! Women can do it all, right? Newsflash: we can’t. Even if I could, I don’t want to. 

Sharing Your Mental Load With Your Partner

I’m going to tell you a secret. Are you ready? We’ve all been sold a lie: the lie that men aren’t capable of carrying some of the household burdens. I recently did a poll on my Instagram asking women if they sometimes feel that it would be easier to just do something themselves instead of asking for help. I was met with a resounding yes.

We may think things like “my husband probably doesn’t even know where the kids’ school is” or “he probably doesn’t know what time to pick them up,” but that’s just not fair. If they don’t know these things, it’s time that they do so they can take on some of the responsibilities as well. 

The Moment I Knew I Need To Address the Responsibility Imbalance

Story time. One day, my husband Tyler took the kids to the dentist. After the appointment, they asked him if he would like to schedule the next appointment. Instead of doing it, he said “no, my wife will call you.” I lost it when he told me. Why put that on me? Why add that to my list when you were just there? It was then that I knew I needed to make a change before it set me over the edge. 

Since having conversations about sharing the mental load, I’ve seen my husband take on more tasks. Surprise! He does them just as well, if not better than I can. He also now cooks all our meals and does all the grocery shopping, so I never have to think about the meals. It’s no longer a part of my mental load. 

How To Share the Mental Load With Your Partner

When it comes to sharing the mental load with your partner, every household is unique. So, I decided to tap a few experts, including Mariel Benjamin, LCSW & Director of Groups at Cooper. Mariel is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with over 15 years of experience at Mount Sinai Medical Center working with families and children. She is the Director of Groups at Cooper, and mom to two young kids. She had amazing insights to share on how to lighten your mental load with your children, as well. 

“One of my favorite ways to do this is figuring out how to promote autonomy while removing some items from my list. Ask your children to take over packing their lunches, remembering to wash their soccer uniform in time for practice, or keeping track of their homework.

It stretches them, gives them important roles in the household, and improves their own executive function skills. Above all, remember that asking for help and dividing responsibility is never a bad choice, as long as we allow ourselves to believe that we are entitled to it.”

How to Lighten Your Mental Load

Asking for help with the mental load is just one step in the direction of a happier life. Another is finding ways to make what’s on your plate less heavy. I know what you’re thinking: “How is this possible when there seem to be no relaxing days?” These are my tips.

Give yourself permission 

Not every day needs to be more productive than the next. Give yourself permission to be lazy, lie down, ask for help, be silly, or do whatever you need to do to wind down.

Many times, we are our own captors in the never-ending spiral of stress and shame.

Turn off that voice in your head that says you aren’t doing enough. Replace it with a louder one that says it’s okay to not be perfect. 

Assess your values 

Think of an experience that was so positive, fulfilling, and deeply meaningful that you can almost feel what it was like to be in that moment. It could be from any point in your life. Write down what made that experience so meaningful to you. Repeat this process a few times using different experiences and calm yourself down before continuing on with your day.

Take a self-compassion break 

Stop being so hard on yourself! The world will not fall apart if we miss one thing on our list. Take a moment to mindfully reflect on all that you have done instead of all that you haven’t, and have compassion for yourself. Feel for your own well-being as you would for a loved one. 

Have the talk

Sit your partner down and chat about what a fair division of labor looks like in your home. Even if you’re a stay-at-home caregiver, you can still divide some of this labor up. If you’re like Tyler and me, you might have more of a 35/65 split. The important thing is to sit down in a calm environment and empower your partner to take on tasks that meet both of your standards for care. 

More Mental Load Resources

If you’re feeling at the end of your rope, resentful, overwhelmed, or unsure how to communicate these feelings to your spouse, I recommend checking out some of these accounts.

• @fairplaylife
• @everodsky
• @motherhonestly
• @totumwomen
• @chamberofmothers

They have helped me find balance and my voice when it came to asking for help with my mental load. I hope they can do the same for you! 

A Few Final Thoughts

I hope we can all recognize that it’s not unreasonable to ask for help and for equal rest in the household. Laura Danger of ThatDarnChat said it best when I asked for her advice.

“Working outside of the house and domestic engineering at home are both time and energy consuming. Everyone deserves to hold some of the daily grind tasks, as well as some of the more mentally heavy tasks like state planning or managing holidays! Be clear and explicit, and make the time to discuss who is responsible. Don’t default. Discuss!”

Stay tuned! I’ll be following up with how I took a deep dive with Tyler on the Fairplay method, how we split our mental load and domestic labor, and how we value it. In the meantime: you’ve got this!

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Ultimately, parenting on Halloween is all about encouraging well-rounded eating habits and leading by example. Spoiler alert: the less emphasis you put on candy, the more success you’ll see around reducing your kids’ obsession with it.

Feature image of Brandy Joy Smith and family by Zachary Gray.

Edie Horstman

Edie is the founder of nutrition coaching business, Wellness with Edie. With her background and expertise, she specializes in women’s health, including fertility, hormone balance, and postpartum wellness.

Children Are Intuitive Eaters

One of the most powerful things we can glean from our children is how in-tune they are with their hunger cues. Despite their mealtime fussiness, they’re intuitive eaters. Therefore, it’s our responsibility to model healthy behaviors around food—especially on holidays, like Halloween. It’s also our duty to give them the space to eat unconditionally. In turn, they can develop a healthy relationship with food (and a mindful relationship with sugar). In the spirit of wholesome parenting, Halloween is a wonderful opportunity to approach treats with ease and empowerment. It’s not all or nothing.

Set Your Child Up To Have A Normal Relationship With Food

Before we get to how to approach Halloween candy with kids, let’s back up. While normal looks different for everyone, the gist is to raise children to have a mindful yet enjoyable (read: stress-free!) relationship with food—both on holidays and in general. Below are five tips to raise a habitual eater.

Strive to be a positive role model

Monkey see, monkey do. If you struggle with a healthy relationship with food, you might find it difficult to model that for your children. And that’s okay. A wonderful place to start is to not see our bodies as an enemy. Rather than strive for body positivity, strive for body neutrality around your kids. Sometimes, saying nothing is better than saying something.

Try not to use food as reward or punishment

Have you ever found yourself saying, “You can’t have ice cream unless you eat your broccoli,” or “If you misbehave, you can’t have a cookie.” Using food as a reward—or punishment—is so tempting. However, this automatically categorizes foods as good or bad. Non-food rewards, like special activities or a new bathtub toy, can be just as effective. Not using food as a reward or punishment also avoids putting foods into boxed categories—a mentality that can carry over into adulthood.

Let go of the clean plate club

Unfortunately, this forces kids to ignore their internal signals of fullness. Instead of being able to explore and enjoy the foods in front of them, children feel like they need to eat everything on their plate—often, to move on to dessert. They know when they are hungry and when they are full. They might gravitate toward some foods more than others. In that case, you can explore more foods, together.

Although some picky eating is common, extremely picky eating that persists for several months or more could be a sign of disordered eating. Parents who have concerns about their child’s eating patterns should consult a pediatrician or another health professional.

Prioritize family meals

Speaking of exploring foods, together, family meals are crucial for raising a normal eater. After all, they protect against disordered eating. Yes, that includes eating dessert together! This is a wonderful way to build family relationships, honor cravings, and more.

Be weight neutral

Rather than focus on your child’s size, which can (and will) change over time, try to be neutral. Note the diversity of bodies and how they naturally come in different shapes and sizes. Encourage children to eat a variety of foods and to do physical activities that bring them joy.

No Need To Be The Treat Police

So, how do you handle the abundance of candy with your little one(s)? Do you give them a certain number of pieces? Is it a free-for-all? Should they even go trick-or-treating? How to approach Halloween candy with kids may require trial and error, but there’s no need to act as the “Switch Witch,” “Treat Police,” or pretend Halloween never happened. That doesn’t teach kids anything—other than restriction, deprivation, and shame. Ultimately, the goal is to empower children to mindfully eat sugar and desserts, versus fearing and obsessing over treats, altogether.

How To Approach Halloween Candy With Kids

If you take one thing from this article, let it be this: don’t stress about Halloween candy!

Yes, that’s the silver bullet. In the grand scheme of things, the stress and pressure are unnecessary. Enjoy some with your kids while it’s in the house, then move on. All things considered, there aren’t an infinite number of Halloweens in your child’s life (or yours). Eventually, they’ll be too old for trick-or-treating—or simply disinterested in it.

1. When They Ask For Candy, Say Yes

As long as you’ve deemed it appropriate for your toddler to have added sugar or sweets, let your child enjoy a handful of candies. One night (or a few nights) of multiple candies will not ruin their long-term health—I promise! With toddlers, specifically, they’re still very good at eating intuitively and will stop when they’re full. Most young children will take two or three candies, and be done with it. They may even take a bite or two and then get distracted by something else.

2. Don’t Make A Big Deal Out Of It

The less of a deal you make out of it, the more you’ll see it’s not worth stressing over in the first place. Show your little one that candy is a food like any other food. Nothing special, nothing to get worked up over, nothing to put up on a pedestal—or conversely, nothing to be ashamed of when eating. Remember: food (including candy)—can be eaten strictly for enjoyment! Not everything we eat is tied to nutrition. 

3. Engage In Conversation With Them

Encourage your kids to choose which candies they like. They can even make separate piles. This may seem obvious, but there’s no need to devour treats they don’t love. Furthermore, engage in conversation with them while they’re eating—ask them about the texture, colors, flavors, etc. Speaking of, no need to come from a “I told you so” perspective if they go overboard. Rather, help them observe what they feel in their body—and why. You can respond with, “I’m sorry your belly is hurting. Maybe, having that much candy made it upset. Let’s practice listening to your body and stopping before it hurts.”

4. Resume Your Mealtime Boundaries On November 1st

After Halloween, put the candy out of sight. Resume whatever strategies you’ve implemented when it comes to sugar and dessert. When in doubt, offer sweets alongside a meal or snack. That way, it’s treated like any other food. It’s a small portion on their plate and offered among a variety of other nutritious options.As a parent, you choose when to offer candy rather than give it anytime your child asks for it. Explain that it’s not going to disappear forever after October 31st. You can all enjoy it, in moderation, to keep the Halloween spirit alive.

Halloween Blood Sugar Hacks

Last but not least, a few Halloween blood sugar hacks! To help minimize sugar rushes (and crashes), aim to have a filling and nutrient-dense dinner before trick-or-treating. Rather than set your child up with an empty belly before a night full of candy, peek these easy, weeknight dinner recipes. Opt for a good source of protein (animal or plant-based), fat (avocado, cheese, olive oil, etc.) and fiber (carrots, broccoli, cauliflower, etc.). When you’re out trick-or-treating, bring water with electrolytes with you. Stay hydrated, and encourage your kids to do the same. Feel free to bring a nourishing yet sweet snack, too!

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During this process, emotions of confusion, guilt, and fear are commonplace. As the world moves on around them, there is often little comfort or support offered from friends or family. Because few—if anyone—in their close community even knew they were pregnant. “It was still so early.”

Lauren Zielinski, MSN, CNM

Lauren Zielinski is a certified nurse-midwife with over 11 years of experience in women’s health and birth. She studied medicine at The University of Colorado-Denver with a focus on community health and birth center work.

Data shows that 10 to 20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage (the loss of a pregnancy), with 80% of these losses occurring in the first trimester. In the United States, that translates to roughly one million losses per year. Contrast that number with the fact that, culturally and societally, it’s common to hide a pregnancy until at least 12 weeks gestation, if not 20.

But if nobody knows you’re pregnant and an unfortunate loss does occur, where do you turn for support and comfort? No one would expect a family to weather a funeral alone, but for some reason, we expect women and couples to experience the loss of a child in silence. This can lead to people feeling isolated in their grieving, and eventually trickles down to the communal loss of solace in a shared experience.

It should also be noted that early pregnancy loss is no less painful than a later loss but is often mistaken to be “less of a big deal,” furthering the pain and grief when some do choose to share.

Unhelpful and painful comments from well-meaning friends and family or even the avoidance of the subject altogether show how little we as a society understand about how to talk about miscarriage and navigate this painful subject.

This is such a deeply personal experience, but I hope this article can inspire a shared sense of empathy. As you read, I encourage you to consider why expecting parents may choose not to share their pregnancy news and what purpose that may or may not serve them.

It’s time for the communal experience of loss to be given back to families, to be discussed among one another more openly. It’s in that experience that we may be surprised to find the space to be held and supported in our grief.

Perhaps simply acknowledging the idea that we don’t talk about loss will spark a much-need conversation about why we should and how to talk about miscarriage. Below are some considerations to take into account as one begins to navigate pregnancy, the idea of pregnancy, or grief in the time of loss. They’re considerations that may help you feel a little less alone during the unthinkable while creating more space for others who have experienced loss themselves.

How to Talk About Miscarriage In a Loving, Gentle Way

Gather your village: the first trimester is hard

The first trimester is often so much harder than expected. Romanticized images of women, glowing and smiling, holding their beautiful bellies are what we all envision as an early pregnancy ensues. However, the reality oftentimes looks more like a tired and grumpy woman, slightly bloated with her belly nuzzled in sweatpants. She probably has just enough energy to move from the bed to the couch while potentially getting into a hormonally-motivated fight with her partner. You get the point: it’s rough!

You might be surprised by how held you feel by letting a small number of your besties, family members, and perhaps the right boss or a few coworkers know you’re pregnant. Creating your own village of supporters to check on you and be gentle with you may lighten the emotional and physical burden of it all. In the event of a miscarriage or loss, you won’t be as isolated or alone with no one to talk to about what has happened and how to begin to move forward. You may find that the power of presence, a listening ear, or the story of someone who had a similar experience can be wonderfully supportive.

As you begin to navigate trying for a baby or early pregnancy, carefully consider who you want to invite into your village. And don’t feel guilty if it’s not your family. Remember: this time is about finding what will be supportive for you. I recommend choosing those you know will offer calm, supportive, non-judgmental love and show up when you need them. Finding the balance between guarding your energy and heart and reaching out for support when you need it is the goal.

Shed the shame & stigma: miscarriages are never someones “fault”

One of the most common and heartbreaking questions I hear from patients after a miscarriage is this: what did I do wrong? In reality, there is likely nothing anyone could have ever done to prevent miscarriage. A surprising 50% of first trimester losses occur due to chromosomal abnormalities. In other words, it’s a fact of life that not every single egg ovulated is genetically normal. As painful as it is, fortunately our bodies won’t continue a pregnancy that isn’t healthy.

Outside of the parts we can’t control, women should also know that not being “perfect” while trying for a baby also has little to do with miscarriage. A few drinks before the stick turns pink, not sleeping enough, experiencing big stressors, having sex, exercising, or eating certain foods all have nothing to do with whether or not a pregnancy “sticks.” Unfortunately though, this information and reassurance aren’t readily accessible or easy to find, and you’re lucky if your doctor offers you a follow-up appointment after a miscarriage to explain what happened.

We are failing women as much medically, as we are societally when it comes to loss and how to talk about miscarriage.

As women begin to face the world during and after a loss, they may find it challenging to find an individual experienced and willing to listen and validate their loss and the very normal emotions that come with it. Societally, miscarriage seems to be one of the last taboos. It’s often undiscussed or avoided altogether. This hush-hush attitude compounds women’s experiences of shame and guilt by 1) not having a full understanding of how common loss is and 2) by experiencing their emotions as something to feel shameful or embarrassed of.

If you’re struggling with a loss, advocating for yourself in a few different ways may help ease the pain:

1. Reach out to your women’s health provider and ask to schedule a miscarriage/loss follow-up appointment. In this space, you can ask any of the burning questions you may have about the experience and put your mind at ease about what’s happening in your body, when you can try again, or get on birth control. It’s also a good idea to get lab work done after a miscarriage to be sure there are no pregnancy hormones remaining in your body and your uterus can begin to reset.
   
2. Choose a few friends or family members to talk to about your experience with. Give yourself the time and space to process the loss you experienced. Know that grief is common in these moments. Processing your emotions and the reality of what has happened often makes it easier to move forward and carry less anxiety in future pregnancies.
   
3. Don’t be afraid to reach out to a therapist for support. This can be deeply healing. Couples therapy and support may be helpful as well if you’re having a hard time verbalizing to your partner or getting on the same page about what you’re feeling. There are many therapists who specialize in perinatal loss and women’s health issues. Find someone who will validate what you’re going through. Psychology Today is a great resource if you’re looking to connect with a therapist.

Remember: Sharing Your Story Can Help Others

I can’t count the number of times a woman tells me that after she began talking about her loss, she realized that many other women in her life also experienced miscarriage. After or during a loss, sharing your story with even just a handful of friends is the first step to changing the conversation and helping others learn how to talk about miscarriage.

This isn’t for everyone, and of course, we’re all allowed to process and grieve differently. However, if you’re hiding your miscarriage but feel that talking about it would be helpful, there’s no better time to break the stigma. If you’ve experienced a loss in the past, consider reaching out to a friend you know may be experiencing something similar. The point is not to process your loss again while your friend grieves but to help them feel less alone.

If you’re not sure how to navigate these waters, simply making someone feel seen and heard in what they’re going through is a great place to start. Sharing tips you may have gathered during your own healing process could also be helpful or comforting. I also urge you to say something positive if you hear someone has shared their pregnancy earlier than expected. Consider congratulating them on their bravery and let them know that you’re there if they need support.

If You’ve Miscarried More Than Once

While it’s extremely common to lose one pregnancy and sometimes even two, having more than two miscarriages is known as recurrent pregnancy loss. It can be beneficial to schedule a doctor’s visit to be sure there isn’t an underlying disorder causing you to lose pregnancies. There are medications or interventions that may help you stay pregnant dependent on what condition you have.

If you’ve been trying for a baby for six months (if you’re over 35 years old) to a year (if you’re under 35 years old) and haven’t conceived a healthy pregnancy, you also qualify to seek out fertility assistance. We recommend speaking with your doctor to learn more about what medications and treatments may be right for you.

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Parenting hacks are all the rage these days—who doesn’t love a crafty idea on how to make life easier? There are plenty of parent hack lists out there and, let’s face it, some are better than others. As a mom of two who is always willing to give anything a shot, I’ve scoured these lists and narrowed them down to the best ones to help you get through the day.

When it comes to parenting hacks, I have a few tried and true options that fall within my internal list of requirements. First of all, it can’t have too many steps. Is it really a hack if it involves more than five minutes of prep work? Second, it can’t be expensive. Buying your way out of a parenting hurdle isn’t an option for everyone, so it’s not fair to list something unless its accessible for everyone. Last but not least, if the tip helps me relax, then I love it even more. 

So, after scouring the internet and rounding up some of my own household practices, I’ve put together my list of 21 parenting hacks that will save you time and stress. Some of these are funny while others are highly convenient. But here’s the truth: They will all blow your mind and change your life. 

Featured image by Belathée Photography.

21 Parenting Hacks That’ll Bring a Little More Easy to Every Day

1. Try this trick for easier airport travel. I get it—as a mom who’s made plenty of cross-country trips with my kids in tow, the airport (and plane, for that matter), can be one of the most challenging obstacles to navigate. But I swear by this car seat/stroller tip. It has saved me space and money and has truly changed how my family travels.

2. An easy way to keep your kids entertained. OK, this tip may be more of a social media engagement play than a true parent hack, but hey, if you have a swing set, a long rope, and a couch to relax on, give it a try! It’ll save your back, let you relax, and even get a little arm workout.

3. Cover your pack and play with a fitted sheet. Fitted sheets aren’t just the most frustrating part of making a bed. They can also be used to keep mosquitoes and bugs at bay! If you’re taking your pack and play outside, simply fasten the fitted sheet over top and you don’t have to worry about your little one getting bothered or bit by bugs.

4. …or take it to the beach! One of my favorite parent hacks is using a fitted sheet upside down at the beach. Put coolers or other heavier items in the four corners, and voila—you have a plan pen that will be sand-free.

5. Keep your bath toys mold-free. There’s nothing worse than throwing in the bath toys only to discover that your child’s favorite rubber ducky is a moldy mess. But don’t worry—there’s a simple solution. All you have to do is use a glue gun to fill up the tiny hole at the bottom. This has to be one of the easiest parenting hacks out there. Cover the hole with a small dot of glue and let it dry. Squeaky-clean bath time awaits!

6. Hair bow organization. I’ve used this tip to replace my old habit of throwing bows in a basket (don’t even get me started on the difficulty of sorting through the mess!). Instead, you can organize your kids’ hair bows by securing ribbons to a hanger and clipping on the bows. Easy-peasy.

7. Catch my drip? Nothing is worse than sticky hands that leave a mess, so I’m obsessed with this hack for catching drips from popsicles and other messy snacks.

8. Download apps for baby monitors. By simply downloading an app, you can turn your phone into an on-the-go baby monitor that’s perfect for travel. Cloud Baby Monitor and Baby Monitor 3G are my favorites.

9. Ball fishing. Tired of chasing the tee ball? It’s time to put those fishing rods cluttering your garage to good use.

10. Leftover balloons. Is your house filled with leftover balloons following a birthday party or celebration? This is the most genius hack I can think of that’ll make good use of the party favors. Hours of entertainment await.

11. Medicine in a juice box. Can’t get your kids to take their medicine? Add it into a juice box or a kid-friendly smoothie and they won’t even notice.

12. Tape on toys that make noise. Apply scotch tape over the speaker of your kid’s toys to save yourself a headache. 

13. Maximize under-the-bed storage. While I love stashing the kids’ toys and seasonal clothes away under the bed, many of these organization systems can be heavy and cumbersome. Instead, I make the most of the simple hack of adding wheels to a metal mesh basket so your kids can roll their toys out from under the bed without your help.

14. Backwards onesie. Put your child’s onesie on backward so they can’t strip naked whenever they please. (Speaking from experience, this hack will save you a lot headaches!)

15. Pizza cutter pancakes. If pancakes are a part of your weekend rotation, this hack is the perfect solution for creating bite-sized pieces that you won’t have to worry about your little one choking on.

16. Scissors for pizza. Avoid cheesy messes by using these non-scratch kitchen shears to divvy up the pizza slices

17. Toys in the dishwasher. Have your kids ever had an accident in the tub that gets all of their toys messy? I sure have, and let me tell you—cleaning them was a nightmare. Then my bestie shared a hack that would change my life: Just throw them in the dishwasher! This one seems so obvious, but when I learned about it, my mind was blown.

18. Swap out the shoe rack for toy storage. If you have somewhere else to store your shoes, this is the perfect way to get your kids to clean up their toys and enjoy the visual pleasure of seeing them put away (or maybe that’s wishful thinking on my part… ).

19. Target practice. It might sound silly, but totally works: Put cheerios in the toilet for target practice when potty training your son! 

20. Freeze your breastmilk. The best parent hack for preserving breast milk.

21. Make a bread sponge. When cleaning up broken glass, use a piece of bread to get any remaining stubborn bits off the floor. 

What are some of your favorite parent hacks? Sound off in the comments so I can add more to my ever-growing list! 

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In that moment, I realized my son had plenty to tell me—I’d simply been asking the wrong questions. And so, I set off to become a collector of questions and conversation starters for families that actually get kids talking.

In truth, my revelation changed more than just the way I talk to my kids (see also: the ever-popular marriage meeting). “How was your day?” is such a broad, monotonous question that, hardly ever elicits meaningful conversation whether you’re five or fifty. It’s stories that drive us—stories that spark core memories and bring a certain color and richness to our lives. And stories begin by asking the right questions.

But it doesn’t stop there.

How do you have a good conversation with family?

Even with the best conversation starters in your toolbox, there are a few more things to consider when it comes to engaging kids (and parents, for that matter).

First, Consider timing

I used to host a regular “snack and share” around the table after school and that worked well—for a time. But as schedules change and my kids get older, they’re more interested in playing, eating, watching a TV show, and eating again than they are sitting down for a chat with an adult. These days, dinnertime works better for us. Every family will be different, but know that if your child is hungry or tired, no one will appreciate a forced family moment.

When your child opens a window for conversation, you never know how long it will stay open. Take the opportunity.

Second, look for the windows

Occasionally in parenting, there will be a window of opportunity to talk—really talk—to your kids. But here’s the kicker. This moment most often comes when you least expect it, or when you’re busy, or when you’re not paying attention. OR when you’re child is almost asleep and mentally, you’re already on the couch with a celebratory drink. The key is to immediately do the opposite: stop what you’re doing and pay attention. When your child opens a window for conversation, you never know how long it will stay open. Take the opportunity. This builds a bond of trust and connection—and shows your child you’re always available when they need you.

Finally, consider the setting

If your kids have a hard time opening up or getting into a conversational flow, change it up. Perhaps your dinner table is more chaotic than calm. In that case, it’s probably not the best place to introduce a new family ritual. If the right question is a seed, then your setting is the soil—it should be a place where conversation can grow.

Try throwing out a few conversation starters while you’re going for a walk or bike ride. Driving in a car is the perfect place to ask fun questions, especially when there’s a snack stash handy. When you get out in nature or go for a drive, it provides something else to focus on which tends to magically open the avenues for free-flowing dialogue.

Now that you have the tools, let’s dive into the questions.

Questions to Ask Kids After School

Try these questions when your kid gets settled in the car, when you get home (or after you wrap up homeschool), or even later at dinner. Mix ’em up or, if your child responds well to a particular question, make it part of your post-school ritual.

• Did you make anyone laugh today?
• Who made you laugh today?
• Who did you sit next to at lunch?
• What did you eat today?
• Did anyone get in trouble today?
• Who did you play with on the playground?
• Did you play any games at recess?
• What made you feel happy today?
• Did anything make you sad today?
• What is one thing you learned today?
• What did your teacher talk to you about today?
• What is your favorite thing about your teacher?
• Did you do anything that felt hard today?
• Was anyone kind to you today?
• Did you help anyone today?
• Did you try anything new today?
• If you were the teacher for the day, what would you do?

If the right question is a seed, then your setting is the soil—it should be a place where conversation can grow.

Family Dinner Questions

Use these dinner conversation starters as a jumping-off point. You can take turns answering a single question around the table or give everyone a new question. There’s no need to rush from one to the next—the goal is simply communication. Remember to practice active listening, stay curious, and have fun.

• Highs and lows: share one high and one low from the day.
• What are you excited about for tomorrow?
• What’s the best thing about your family?
• Pick one person at the table and give them a compliment.
• What’s one thing you’re looking forward to?
• What is your least favorite chore?
• What do you think makes for a happy family?
• What is your favorite meal we have as a family?
• If you could invite anyone over for dinner, who would it be?
• What is one new thing you learned today?
• What made you laugh or smile today?
• Tell one person at the table what you like about them.
• Share one thing you’re grateful for.
• What’s your favorite family tradition?
• Choose three words to describe yourself.
• Where would you like to go on a family vacation?
• If you could switch places with your parents for the day, what would you do?
• What’s the hardest thing about being your age?
• What’s the best thing about being your age?

Conversation Starters For Teens

We were all there once, so are teenagers such a mystery? When it comes to conversation, look for the windows and give them a gentle nudge when they crack open. Call out the good stuff, validate emotions, and help them navigate any problems or issues—but don’t do it for them. Simple, right?  

• What’s something good in your life right now?
• What’s something hard in your life right now?
• Who’s someone you look up to and why?
• What’s the last thing you Googled?
• How do you feel about social media?
• What’s something you wish adults understood about teenagers?
• What is something you would have told yourself five years ago?
• What do you like about school?
• What makes someone a good friend?
• Do you have any friends you’re worried about right now?
• What’s one thing you really like about yourself?
• What scares you most about the future?
• What excites you most about the future?
• What’s the best thing about being a teenager?
• What’s something you’re proud of?
• Has there ever been a question you wanted to ask me but haven’t?
• If you could relive one day of your life, what would it be?

Fun Conversation Starters for Families

Stuck in a car for a long time? These fun questions and would-you-rathers are road trip gold. My recommendation: drive as far as the first gas station, let everyone choose one snack, then kick off the trip with a question before pulling out the screens.

• What’s your favorite word?
• If you met a genie, what three things would you wish for?
• What’s a word that always makes you laugh?
• Tell me your favorite joke.
• Would you rather shave your head or have a mohawk?
• You just put on the sorting hat: which Hogwarts House are you in?
• Would you rather lose social media or TV?
• If you could trade places with one person for a day, who would it be?
• If you were a superhero, what would be your power?
• If I gave you $100, where would you spend it?
• If you could only eat one food every day for the rest of your life, what would it be?
• If you could pick your own name, what would it be?
• If you had a time machine, where (or when) would you go?
• If you could be a character from any book or movie, who would you be?
• If you could have any pet, what would you pick?
• Would you rather live in the mountains or on the beach?
• If you could only watch one movie for the rest of your life, what would it be?
• Would you rather go on a cruise or a safari?
• If the sky rained food, what would you want it to be?
• If we all lived in a zoo, what animal would each person be?
• If you could make a new animal, what would it be?
• If there was a movie about you, what would it be called?
• Would you rather go to space or dive deep into the ocean?
• If you could make one of your toys come to life, which one would you pick?
• If you could live inside one TV show, what would it be?

Getting To Know You Questions

Finally, these questions are good to have in your pocket for any occasion. Try them when you’re FaceTime-ing with out-of-town relatives or on a Saturday morning donut run. There’s always something new to discover, even about your own child—and vice versa.

• If you were invisible for a day, what would you do?
• What is your happiest memory?
• When was the last time you felt embarrassed?
• I wish I knew more about ______.
• Who is the nicest person you know?
• Describe your perfect day.
• What is your favorite book?
• When was the last time you changed your mind?
• Who is the funniest person you know?
• What makes you feel better when you’re scared?
• What are your favorite toys?
• What do you like about your favorite movie?
• When was the last time you felt embarrassed?
• Who is a famous person you admire?
• What helps you get out of a bad mood?
• Where is your favorite place to go?
• What do you do when you’re bored?
• What’s the best gift you ever received?
• What do you want to be when you grow up?
• What is one thing you’re really good at?
• What’s your favorite dessert?
• What is your favorite thing to wear?
• What is something you’d like to learn to do?

Final Thoughts (And How to Get Started)

Hosting meaningful conversations with your family doesn’t need to be some big overhaul in your routine. My favorite way to start anything at all is to begin with a small seed of change. Small is sustainable. So, what does that look like? Choose one question on the way to school. Give yourself three minutes to connect. Pick one day of the week for a family walk and talk. After all, the thing about seeds? They tend to grow.

(PS: Listening, reflecting, and seven more ways to encourage confidence in your kids.)

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What we remember from our childhood greatly impacts the way we parent. It’s safe to say that every generation of parenting is different, and some of the ones from the past might make you cringe today. New studies on how to raise your children come out daily and, to be honest, we are all just working with the best information we have at any given moment.

Featured image by Teal Thomsen.

One of my favorite parenting coaches, Destini Ann, has a quote that’s always guided my parenting practices: “If anyone is an expert on your family, it’s you.” And while I believe it, I have also felt extreme pressure to do a good job. Oftentimes, I find myself caught in the trap of thinking my children’s behavior is tied to my worth as a mother. Seriously—I die a little inside every time my child acts out in public.

Even though I know kids are kids, I still feel embarrassed and disappointed in myself when things go less than perfect.

I’ve learned through my personal parenting journey that half of the job is parenting myself, recognizing my triggers, and understanding what my values and boundaries are. I’ve also learned to show my kids empathy and respect within these boundaries. This is all part of the concept of gentle parenting.

Dr. Becky Kennedy

Dr. Becky Kennedy is a clinical psychologist and mom of three who was named “The Millennial Parenting Whisperer” by TIME Magazine. She received a BA in Psychology and Human Development, Phi Beta Kappa and summa cum laude, from Duke University and a PhD in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University.

To get a clearer, more comprehensive understanding of gentle parenting, I spoke with Dr. Becky Kennedy, a clinical psychologist and the founder of Good Inside. Dr. Kennedy spoke to me about how the concept has informed her own parenting philosophy, Good Inside Parenting. She says that, “Good Inside Parenting assumes that everyone is doing the best they can with the resources they have at the time.

“When kids struggle, we don’t see them as bad kids doing bad things, but rather as good kids having a hard time.”

“This shifts the mindset of how we intervene—from punishing behavior and to skill-building to change behavior. And let me be clear: there is nothing ‘soft’ about the Good Inside approach; we show parents how to be sturdy leaders, establish firm boundaries, and withstand a child’s protest and pushback.”

With that foundation to guide us, let’s dive deeper into gentle parenting—and how you can start practicing it yourself.

What is gentle parenting?

Gentle parenting is exactly what it sounds like: a kinder and gentler way to raise children. By definition, it means parenting without shame, blame, or punishment. It’s a partnership between parties, and according to Parents, both caregivers and children have a say in this collaborative style.

While there are plenty of ways to explain it, in my opinion, gentle parenting is about communicating with your kids and viewing them as unique individuals rather than extensions of yourself. 

How do I start practicing gentle parenting?

Now that we’ve defined gentle parenting, you might be wondering where to begin. The good news is that Dr. Becky says it’s never too late to start. “The right time to change is always right now. Change is most effective when we make it easy and manageable. There are simple steps parents can take that have a huge impact in their family home.”

7 Key Gentle Parenting Tips

1. Put empathy first. Remember your kids aren’t robots that can just follow orders. Put yourself in their shoes and the rest will follow. 
2. Set age-appropriate boundaries. What is your child capable of doing versus what you think they should be doing.
3. Add reasons to your boundaries. “Because I said so” is not good enough, anymore!
4. Be flexible. Balance out your rules and boundaries with leniency so your child doesn’t think everything is off limits.
5. Use your words. Raising your voice is often the go-to when punishing your children, however, gentle parenting recommends using better wording to get your point across.
6. Help them learn from their mistakes. If they err, make sure to teach them the right thing to do and reward them accordingly. Punish the action, not the child.
7. Connect with your kids. Try and let down the guard that says you are the adult and they are the inferior. Collaboration over compliance. 

How effective is gentle parenting?

Time to dive into the nitty gritty—does this technique work? After all, being soft with your kids could inevitably lead to excused bad behavior, right? Not exactly. Dr. Becky says there’s a misconception that “focusing on kids’ emotional life is ‘soft’—this couldn’t be more false.”

She continues, “we feel before we think and so a focus on feelings is all about helping people from where their troubles start. This focus is logical, practical, and effective.

“[Gentle Parenting] believes in boundaries, limits, and jobs—both for parents and kids. We teach parents how to embody their authority while showing their kids empathy and respect. You can be sturdy and warm, you can be kind and disciplined, you can set rules and empathize.”

As always, my opinions are my own and the way you choose to parent your children is entirely up to you! However, I hope that this article has helped you to see the value in gentle parenting, and even if you don’t fully make the change, perhaps you can incorporate some aspects of it into your day-to-day. 

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But, what if your little ones refuse to eat their veggies? It can feel impossible to find that delicate balance between their autonomy and your rules. Rest assured, it’s possible. Today, I’m sharing how to get fussy eaters to eat vegetables. With a sprinkle of creativity, get ready to watch your child’s palate expand.

Feature image by Hannah Haston.

Edie Horstman

Edie is the founder of nutrition coaching business, Wellness with Edie. With her background and expertise, she specializes in women’s health, including fertility, hormone balance, and postpartum wellness.

Everything in Moderation, Including Sugar

Kids’ packaged foods are at our beck-and-call. As someone who grew up on granola bars and fruit roll-ups, I know how deliciously addicting convenience food is. Unfortunately, research shows that children are consuming far more added sugar than past generations. In fact, the Journal of the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics, found that almost 85% of infants and toddlers were fed foods with added sugars or artificial sweeteners regularly (even, daily). 

As parents, it’s our responsibility to nourish our children with balanced, nutritious food. After all, we want them to live long and healthy lives. Does this mean they can’t have added sugar? Of course not! At the end of the day, we want them to establish a healthy relationship with food. In part, that means there are no hard and fast rules. All foods fit. Thus, it’s about finding a happy medium.

Setting the Example for Our Children

After working with clients for over six years, many adults have—or have had—a disordered relationship with food. And it’s not hard to see why. Our society puts thinness on a pedestal, equating a small body with health. This obsessiveness with food and body has led to universal struggles with guilt, fear, and anxiety around food. But, we can be better for our kids. We can do our best to limit diet culture messaging in our homes. In turn, we can foster an easygoing, relaxed attitude toward food. This will encourage our children to make food choices without agonizing over ingredients or calories.

What Nutrients Do Kids Need to Be Healthy?

There’s a delicate balance between offering our children nutrient-dense foods and giving them opportunities to eat anything and everything. But before we get into how to get fussy eaters to eat vegetables, it’s helpful to have a general understanding of what fuels their growing bodies.

Iron

Iron helps move oxygen from the lungs to the rest of the body. It’s essential! It’s best to turn to iron-rich, real food sources to help meet your toddler’s need for iron. Iron is available in two forms: Heme and non-heme. Heme is found in meat, seafood, and poultry. It’s more absorbable than non-heme iron (plant-based sources of iron, like lentils, beans, tomato puree, and quinoa).

Omega-3 (DHA)

As a whole, healthy fats are vital for infants, babies, and toddlers. They protect major organs, increase nutrient absorption, prevent constipation, and stabilize blood sugar. And of course, they keep toddlers full and satisfied. If your little one is vegan or mostly plant-based, my recommended plant-based source of DHA supplementation is marine algae.

Vitamin D3

Vitamin D is important for a toddler’s growing bones, immunity, and ore. Food sources of vitamin D for your toddler include cod liver oil, salmon, mackerel, herring, egg yolks, and beef liver. It’s best to supplement vitamin D, however, as food sources alone aren’t enough.

Choline

Choline is not a widely recognized nutrient, but it plays a crucial role in infant development! It supports brain development, enhances the memory, improves cognitive function, and more. Food sources of choline include eggs, liver, salmon, beef, beans, lentils, and plain yogurt.

Calcium

Like vitamin D, calcium is vital for building strong bones and teeth. For optimal absorption, pair foods with calcium with fat. Toddler-friendly foods with calcium include plain yogurt, canned sardines (mashed with avocado), kefir (add to a smoothie), salmon, chia seeds, tahini, and spinach.

Protein

Protein is essential for your toddler’s growth, maintenance, and more. Of all the nutrients toddlers need to be healthy, protein is key! It contains many nutrients that are needed for your child’s health. Protein can come from animal or plant-based sources.

See here and here for toddler meal ideas! If you currently have a baby, click here for baby nutrition.

Wondering How to Get Fussy Eaters to Eat Vegetables? Try These 10 Ideas

Whether you have a baby, toddler, or teen, it’s never too late to encourage healthier eating habits. That said, when your household has a picky eater—or three!—providing balanced, nutritious meals can feel impossible. If you’re tired of offering the same-old, same-old with little success, try these tricks for how to get fussy eaters to eat vegetables.

Lastly, if you’re not the only one who prepares food for your child, be sure to share these tips with your partner, caregiver, and grandparents! Consistency is key.

1. As Often as Possible, Eat Together

Easier said than done, I get it. Between schedules and activities, the stars don’t always align. However, whenever possible, eat together. This means no media distractions—like TV or cell phones—at mealtime. Strike up conversation! Use this time to model healthy eating. Serve one meal for the whole family and resist the urge to make another meal if your child refuses what you’ve served. This only encourages picky eating. Try to include at least one food your child likes with each meal and continue to provide a balanced meal, whether she or he eats it or not.

2. Don’t Pressure or Punish

If your toddler refuses a vegetable (or a meal, entirely), avoid fussing over it. As mentioned, it’s important for children to learn to listen to their bodies and use hunger as a guide. If they ate a big breakfast or lunch, for example, they may not be interested in eating much the rest of the day. It’s a parent’s responsibility to provide food, and it’s the child’s decision to eat it. Pressuring kids to eat—or punishing them if they don’t—can make them actively dislike foods they may otherwise like.

3. Try, Try Again

Just because a child refuses a vegetable once, don’t give up. Keep offering new foods and those your child didn’t like before. It can take as many as 10 or more times tasting a food before a toddler’s taste buds accept it. Keep in mind that having scheduled mealtimes (and limiting snacks) can help ensure your child is hungry when a new food is introduced—enticing them to try it.

4. Make Food Fun

Toddlers are especially open to trying foods arranged in eye-catching, creative ways. Make foods look irresistible by arranging them in fun, colorful shapes that toddlers can recognize. Children this age also tend to enjoy any food involving a dip! Finger foods are also usually a hit with toddlers. Cut solid foods into bite-size pieces they can easily eat themselves, making sure the pieces are small enough to avoid the risk of choking.

5. Add Veggies to Baked Goods

Sneak ’em in! As much as I encourage adding veggies to your child’s plate, I get it: it’s not always easy (or fun). And that’s where veggie-packed baked goods come in. This ties into another tip for how to get fussy eaters to eat vegetables: involve your kids in the baking process. Many toddlers and young children love being helpers. Oh, and don’t forget smoothies. They’re another vehicle for adding produce like leafy greens, celery, cucumber, and carrots.

6. Offer New Foods In Small Amounts

When it comes to helping your child explore new flavors and textures in food, start small. Try adding different herbs and spices to simple meals to make vegetables tastier (roasting veggies automatically cuts their bitterness, too!). To minimize waste, offer new foods in small amounts. Think: 1-2 bites. If it doesn’t go well, wait at least a week before reintroducing the same food. Rinse, repeat.

7. Involve Kids In The Planning and Shopping Process

Put your toddler’s growing curiosity to good use. At the grocery store, let your child pick which fruit and vegetable to make for dinner. Read kid-friendly cookbooks together and let your child pick out new recipes to try. Knowing that kids love exerting power and control, involving them in the planning process makes them feel like grown-ups. So, give them their choice of vegetables (choose 2-3) and see if that doesn’t empower them to choose.

8. Encourage Kitchen Helpers

Some cooking tasks are perfect for toddlers (with plenty of supervision, of course): sifting, stirring, counting ingredients, and putting veggies into a pasta salad. Have your kids put leafy greens into smoothie or toss Brussels sprouts with olive oil and sea salt for roasting. Even a DIY pizza night is a great way to load on the veggies. They’ll be much more willing to eat their creations! Research shows that children who are involved in the preparation of foods, such as vegetables, develop more positive attitudes toward—and preferences for—those foods.

9. Implement a Food Bridge

Once a food is accepted, use what’s known as a “food bridge” to introduce your child to similar colors, flavors, and textures. This will help expand their palates. If your child likes pumpkin pie, for example, try mashed sweet potatoes, then mashed carrots. If your kid eats avocado, try mashing green peas into it. If tortellini is a win, try ravioli (filled with spinach and cheese or butternut squash) in the same bowl as well. Seems simple, but it totally works.

10. Celebrate Veggie Wins

The less attention and pressure you put on your kids, the more likely they are to eat their vegetables. However, it’s important to celebrate small veggie wins! Rather than reward them with dessert, create a white board grid they can add magnets to. Once they fill the grid, they get extra play time outside, a new sticker book, etc. On a nightly basis, we want to try to avoid using dessert as a reward. I.e., If you eat your broccoli, you can have a cookie. This can interfere with your child’s natural ability to regulate hunger. It also encourages kids to reward themselves with treats every time they eat veggies. Everything in moderation.

5 Book Recommendations for Picky Eaters

A few for parents (and caregivers)—as well as a couple for kids! When kids read about picky eaters, they feel validated in their behaviors around food. Simultaneously, these books encourage fussy eaters to branch out and try new ingredients.

A Parent’s Guide to Intuitive Eating

This book breaks down intuitive eating in a way that’s easy to understand and even easier to implement. It explains how to help your children develop a positive relationship with food. Through the techniques and tips in this book, you’ll discover how to eliminate stress, anxiety, and food battles and instead enjoy feeding your confident eater!

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Help! My Toddler Is Not Eating

As a dietitian and eating behavior specialist, Dr. Elizabeth Roberts has helped many parents who are overwhelmed with their picky toddler. She wants to share her solutions with you to achieve one goal: go from mealtime tantrums, food refusal, and cooking on demand to relaxed, enjoyable family meals, and watching your toddler try new food.

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Raising A Healthy, Happy Eater

In Raising a Healthy, Happy Eater, the authors explain how to expand your family’s food horizons, avoid the picky eater trap, identify special feeding needs, and put joy back into mealtimes. Think: advice tailored to every stage from newborn through school-age, real-life stories of parents and kids they have helped, wisdom from cultures across the globe on how to feed kids, and more.

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D.W. the Picky Eater

This is a great way to get started talking about healthy foods to younger kids. The reviews speak for themselves!

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The Picky Eater

This colorful book makes picky eating humorous, giving families an opportunity to talk about being open to trying new foods. The illustrations are appealing. Overall, it’s a wonderful book to read.

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This article is for informational purposes only. Nutrients toddlers need to be healthy will vary from child to child. It is not, nor is it intended to be, a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment and we recommend that you always consult with your healthcare provider.

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Today, we’re diving into a topic that’s near and dear to my heart: natural ways to boost your fertility in your 30s. Getting pregnant in your 30s isn’t as dire as we’re lead to believe (far from it, actually). Knowledge is power. With these tips, you can learn to improve your fertility and increase your chances of conceiving.

Edie Horstman

Edie is the founder of nutrition coaching business, Wellness with Edie. With her background and expertise, she specializes in women’s health, including fertility, hormone balance, and postpartum wellness.

Fertility and Age: What the Research Says

Yes, fertility begins to decline as we age. This is inevitable. However, it’s not nearly as dramatic as most think. When I first learned that fertility drops in our late 20s (and decreases faster at age 35), I essentially pictured a slim-to-none chance of conceiving after 38. This is not the case. Realistically, it’s more of a dip—not a nosedive—at 35.

A reassuring study found that women ages 30-34 have an 86% chance of getting pregnant within one year of trying, and a 94% chance of conceiving after two years. For women ages 35-39, there’s an 82% chance of conceiving after one year, and a 90% chance of conceiving after two years. Although these percentages are slightly lower than women ages 19-26, they’re still very hopeful.

How Lifestyle Impacts Fertility

No surprise here: Lifestyle has an impact on just about every part of health and wellbeing—including fertility. Luckily, there are a variety of lifestyle habits you can implement to protect your egg quality, reproductive organs, and hormone health. In turn, all of these things support optimal fertility!

Prioritizing quality sleep, balancing blood sugar, and incorporating moderate exercise have all been shown to increase fertility. Thanks to the power of a balanced, well-nourished lifestyle, you can slow your internal clock. In fact, it’s possible that reproductive health has less to do with chronological age and more to do with biological age. At any rate, now’s the time to incorporate natural ways to boost your fertility in your 30s.

8 Ways to Boost Your Fertility in Your 30s

Below are eight natural ways to improve your chances of getting pregnant in your 30s. I hope these tools give you direction, guidance, and hope. Whether you’re in your early, mid, or late 30s, it’s not too late to improve your chances of conceiving.

Be sure to consult with your primary care physician or health care provider before making changes to your diet and lifestyle.

Stop Stressing About Your Timeline

Your life, your timeline. Trust the unfolding. Stressing about your age, wallowing in should-haves, and berating yourself for not trying to get pregnant sooner will only hinder—not help—your chances of conceiving. This negative attitude will only leave you feeling guilty, frustrated, and emotionally drained.

There is no shame in living a life filled with memories, experiences, and learning opportunities. Looking at things from a different lens, that’s a fertile life.

Fertility is more than conception and reproduction. Fertility is about being full, creative, productive, and vibrant.

Work With Your Doctor

Before trying to conceive, talk to your provider. Let them know you’re planning to have a family. Together, review your menstrual cycle. Ask to have labs done to rule out conditions like hypothyroidism, amenorrhea, and polycystic ovarian syndrome. Blood tests can also rule out nutrient deficiencies (which can impair fertility). In essence, your doctor can help you take a proactive approach to getting your body ready. Set yourself up for success!

Replenish Nutrients Lost From Birth Control

Speaking of nutrient deficiencies, let’s talk about birth control. Unfortunately, there’s no denying that birth control pills deplete the body certain vitamins and minerals. Eating a variety of foods—as well as taking a multivitamin and/or prenatal—can help replace valuable nutrients. However, we want remember that supplements are here to supplement, not replace a nutrient-devoid diet. This is another reason why you want your nutrient levels checked before trying to conceive. You might need a higher dose of some vitamins and minerals, like B vitamins. Again, a blood panel will help with this.

Focus on Anti-Inflammatory Foods

When it comes to a nutrient-rich diet to boost your fertility in your 30s, think anti-inflammatory. Include plenty of antioxidant-rich and anti-inflammatory foods, drinks, herbs, and spices. This will help guard against one of the surmised declines in fertility: oxidative stress. This stress can have a negative effect on egg quality. Ultimately, we want to consume a variety of food that’s as close to the land (or sea) as possible. Whole, minimally-processed foods support female—and male—fertility.

Make Sure You’re Eating Enough

Three of the most important things in nutrition for fertility are eating enough, consuming a variety of high-quality ingredients, and keeping blood sugar balanced. Eating enough (which most women aren’t doing!) ensures your body has enough energy to fuel the very energy-intense process of developing a mature egg, ovulating, conceiving, and carrying a baby to term. Secondly, variety ensures your body is getting the vitamins and minerals it needs for optimal reproductive wellbeing.

Balance Your Blood Sugar

While eating enough is key, so is keeping your blood sugar balanced. Blood sugar stability decreases inflammation in the body, supports optimal sleep, and improves fertility. In fact, studies show that in women, elevated blood sugar levels and insulin resistance can complicate ovulation, making menstrual cycles less predictable. In turn, this can lead to fertility issues. Not sure where to begin? Check out our 7-day blood sugar meal plan!

More Sleep, Less Stress

We’re often so focused on food and fitness that we totally skip over two incredibly important roles in our fertility journeys: sleep and stress. Not only do both of these impact reproductive and overall wellness, but they also support nutrition and exercise. After all, it’s hard to eat well and be active when you’re tired and stressed out. Plus, stress and sleep quickly throw blood sugar out of whack. Here are some quick tips to support restorative rest and stress relief:

1. Do more of what makes you happy. Cliché, I know. But joy and pleasure are essential. Watch your favorite movie, buy yourself flowers, take a bath, get frisky with your partner, etc.
2. Get outside and disconnect from your digital life. Time in nature is rejuvenating and healing on so many levels.
3. Limit your screen time before bed. Easier said than done, but this article has helpful hacks. Journal or read a book instead. Do what works for you!
4. Find an acupuncturist near you. Most health insurance plans cover acupuncture!

Slow Your Internal Clock With Meditation

Research shows that meditation has the potential to reverse—or at the very least, stave off—age-related changes that can negatively affect fertility. Aim to practice yoga and/or meditate 2-3 times a week (or more, if time permits). And it doesn’t have to be an hour-long practice! Get started with whatever time you have—even five minutes a day can do wonders.

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